Thursday, June 16, 2016

Why You Should Love Your Flaws

"If You Look For The Good, You Will Find It."
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If we look for what's wrong with ourselves, we will find plenty of reasons to complain about. But if we look for the best things in ourselves, we'll find plenty of reasons to celebrate. The former allows us to hate ourselves; and the latter teaches us to embrace our true self- with flaws. 

We are all born with some flaws, or we adopt few over a period of time. But we are made up of flaws. And you cannot deny this fact! Nobody is perfect. It's a different matter that in-spite of knowing them, we pretend to be "perfect," and try our best to let them not show up to anybody. We do the alteration or try to conceal the "real things" from the world like:  the physical beauty; body image, appearance, attitudes, failures, weaknesses, certain "negative qualities," and what not. With the changing world, there's solution to everything now; especially if you want to hide things under layers, and project yourself the "perfect" way. But aren't you tired of repressing the true you? Don't you feel the heavy emotional baggage you are carrying underneath- that's holding you back from showing the world- that you're best in so many other ways. So why hide? Why pretend that you are a "perfect" man or a woman?

I grew up hating everything about myself: not just physical appearance, but everything! There were many reasons to feel that way. But ever since I started accepting myself-even with not-so-good- parts of me; I realized and met my beauty- my true beauty that was hiding way way under my fear and hatred. I did not know the talents, the qualities, the reasons that proved to me; that I was unique, I was special like everybody else.

My flaws are as real as I'm. No hiding behind; and nothing to feel shy about. 

I love fashion, I try looking my best, or behaving the "best" way possible, or being kind and polite to almost everyone; but sometimes I fail too! I fail to make everyone happy, and to be good to everyone. I make mistakes, I don't always look pretty or beautiful or attractive like my friends. I have my own reasons to not feel my best all-the-time. I may not be as talented as others, I may not be as intelligent as my friends, my siblings, or my cousins. But I'm much more than you think I'm not. All we need is that vision, that respect for others, and the kindness to accept oneself as well as people with flaws.

I don't like to pretend. I like being real without makeup, and not hiding the "ugly" parts of me most of the times- without feeling ashamed of myself.

The moment you love your flaws and accept them, you set yourself free from any kind of lies you have had been telling yourself or to others; and from all kinds of  society rules of "should be" and "must be." I have learned to look for the good in me, and embrace my imperfections.

When I see myself through my imperfections, they tell me a story about my strongest achievements, my victories, and my growing belief and confidence in me. They show me the scars and the bruises of humiliations and rejections- that have made me attractive, carefree, and strong in all these years. 

So embrace yourself. Embrace that not-perfect body of yours'. Love each of the ugly parts of you, or of yours' and you will soon feel the warmth of love and satisfaction.  You will be more strong to face the world or the people with all your  imperfections, because you're aware of them and you accept them with a open heart.

I hope this post will help you find that lost love and respect for yourself, and you will be confident to embrace your flaws.


Monday, June 6, 2016

How Best To Live A Day and Your Life

"Life is a natural process. But living requires effort." 

And to know if you are living your "best" life or not; you need to know if the effort is coming naturally or you are trying hard- every single day! 


In my early days of life, I was not loving my life at all, and I was pretending that everything was fine. Because I had muted my emotions. I wanted to show everyone that life was treating me fairly; but actually I wanted to believe it too! and therefore had kept all my unhappy feelings suppressed under my fears, uncertainty, responsibilities, approvals, relationships, and under many social acceptance rituals. I was not living my life to the fullest. I wasn't excited about my life. But something that I did not stop then; and even now is: looking forward to some good things coming my way. I had Faith (I still choose faith over my fears), I was Hopeful (still hopeful, because hope changes everything), and I Believed (And I still believe in miracles; and also because when no one else believed in me, I did)

"Your time is limited, don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinion drowned your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."    -Steve Jobs
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Ever since I became aware of my interest and strengths; and pursued my passion, I've been living every day my best life, filled with satisfaction, peace, joy, and my life feels complete these days.

I learned to make the most of my day. 

Every task that you are able to do mindfully, and you put your heart and time into it- is special, is important, and is equally useful in adding meaning to your life. It's a great feeling; when you find a passion- and when that passion becomes your purpose of life. You'll learn to live more (happily) each day. So will you try to find that 'reason' from today?


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"Every day is a new beginning."

Don't put your life on autopilot. And don't be very serious either.  Find things that can take away your attention from every big or small problems in your life. Let your mind know that life may not be easy every day; but certainly there are many things you can try doing and keep yourself engaged, that will help you take away your worries.

It may seem that life is fair to everyone; but that's not true. When you find it hard to live a happy normal life every day, try going out. See people around you. How everyone is struggling to make it to their life; to make it to their dreams. There are so many inspirations around us- feel them, lock them, and include those learning in your life. See if they make a difference in your attitude towards life! 


You are reading my 100th Post. Thank you so much for helping me get here, and showing interest in my blog. You all motivate me to write more and do more-that I like doing. So, Thank you always:)


Do leave me your thoughts telling me how you think you can live your "best" life, or the best day of your life?

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

How To Live More Everyday By Conquering Your Fears

There's nothing called a "problem-free" life. I hope you'll agree with me. And even before the 'actual' problems comes our way; we're paralyzed by so many types of fear(s): "what if"? Certain "fears" are so intense that they leave us feeling overwhelmed, anxious, empty, and literary sad! And we don't like to think about them, or talk about them. 

I was feeling muddled by such fears from last few days. And believe me, they were so hard to avoid thinking about. Fear of uncertainties, insecurity of tomorrow, a sudden feeling of emptiness in life was sending shivers down my spine.

We allow fears to define and dominate our life. Most of the times they are inevitable. Some "big" decisions of our life also involve many types of fears. But we shouldn't allow our fears to rule our decisions. I was also trying to avoid getting caught in those baseless fears; that my mind was developing. I realized, the only way to conquer my fears was by taking that- "leap of faith." 

We cling to fear every now and then. Sometimes we pretend, not being affected by our 'negative thoughts;' and sometimes we fall in the trap. I would rather hold onto my faith, and believe everything will be fine, than letting fears take away my peace, and happiness from me. We all have been gifted with some super strong unseen powers withing ourselves, that can break though any obstacles that stand in our way. So use those powers next time when you're caught in any such fearful thoughts. Stay strong. Believe. Breathe. Go for the win.
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Don't give any time, energy, or attention to fears. Just have faith in that supreme power, who decides everything for us. But sometimes it is also better to think and stay prepared about any kind of unfavorable situations- that you fear. Strengthen your belief system in yourself, and in your "victories"- where you defeated your fears. Reflect on your life, and feel good about the positive stories that has happened in all these years.

Hope you all had a lovely May. Wishing you all A Great June as well.

Do leave me your thoughts about this post in the comments below.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

The Need To Feel Special

We all crave for this "super" need- at least from our partner/life partner- to make us feel special. We love to know - we matter in their life.! And I'm no different:) 

I guess, that's why God created those "special" days in our life- when we have all rights to expect special treatment, love, and care like: our birthday, wedding day, mother's day, father's day; etc. And we women especially love feeling special, getting surprises, and definitely gifts (doesn't matter big or small).

It was last week (May 18th), I celebrated my birthday; and before the month flies away I wanted to do a post where I can show you some of my celebration pictures. I can't tell you, how special this month makes me feel! I absolutely love receiving wishes, love, and blessings from my friends and family. It is always a great feeling to know- you matter, and also to know people care about you. This is the reason, I try my best to make my friends, family, and kids feel special on their birthday, or on any other 'special' days. We all have that need- to be loved, and be somebody-at least once in a while.




A relationship gets stronger, as we learn these tiny little tricks to treat each other. I must say, "I'm lucky to have such a understanding hubby. He is more of a close friend to me, and too good in reading my mind:)....I have had always believed that, wishes come true, and he is my first wish that came true." We are like normal couples- no different; but there is definitely one thing that we do differently -we never forget to make each other feel special-in every possible way. We try our best to give lots of space to each other, and respect our love, likes, and the relationship we share. We happily participate in planning surprises for each other- more privately than flashing it on social networks. "I love the way he makes me feel special on all occasions:):)"

My birthday celebration was no different. But this time my daughter (who is going to be 6 yrs old this July:)) joined him in planning the surprise (everything)...that was such a cute gift for me. You know something; I have learned from my experience- don't wait for your partner to surprise you all-the-time; or to make you feel special every time, you also actively participate in doing so. Make him feel that he is special to you and to your kids. He's got all the 'rights' to feel important  and to have similar expectations, that you expect from him!

Something I want to share with you all- All my clothes, fashion accessories, jewelries, shoes, bags; etc are all my husband's choice. From the day we met till today, I haven't shopped alone for myself. I'm used to him. I love his picks- and will always wear his choices:)

So I wanted to share few of my recent favorites. A peek into my collections. All in pictures:


With My Two Little Angels:) My Daughter- Yutika and My Son-Archit















"Everyone deserves to feel wanted and feel special once in a while." 
You don't feel any less. Remember, you're special and you have all rights to stay happy and feel "good" about yourself.

Do let me know your thoughts about this post:) Can't wait to hear from you.



Friday, May 20, 2016

20 Simple Ways To Help You Feel Beautiful

It's hard to stay "beautiful"-constantly with the changes that happen to our age, skin and look. But it's even harder to feel beautiful every day from within. It's so easy to form all kinds of negative opinions about our look. We're all so vulnerable to the feelings like: "I'm not beautiful, I'm not worthy, I'm not attractive; etc. Sometimes it's actually difficult, I agree! 

I was very much like you, always having negative opinion about myself, my look, and personality. But as I started becoming confident about myself, I realized I'm no less than any other person. I learned to choose what's best for me, and how best I can represent myself while respecting my personal likes and dislikes.


With the images of "perfect" pretty women, "perfect shape", and skinny body image flashing everywhere, it is easy to forget your worth, and to never feel beautiful again.  But when such thoughts become serious reasons to hate yourself, stop and take a closer look at yourself.  Find the reasons (or write it down) that makes your unique features. 


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Even I don't wake up feeling beautiful or pretty every day; nor do I look my best every time. There are days I face people looking the ugliest, but then, I try to accept the flaws and the changes that happened to me. Taking time to understand your features and then donning the most appropriate clothing, make up, or accessories can always help you stand out and more presentable. 


Not everyone is born attractive or flawlessly beautiful. Yes, we may have been gifted with some distinct unique features that we can feel proud about; otherwise that doesn't mean- we can't look our best!

When things doesn't go your way, and you start feeling "not beautiful" anymore; try these simple ways to bring out the sparkle in you.  I often do these:


1. Try to feel beautiful- with or without make-up, but feel the beauty in you from the inside out. Because when you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful, too. Sometimes it's all about our thoughts.

2. Wear Pearls- or anything of similar kind. Pearls are always appropriate. They are simple ways to bring out that elegance and gorgeousness in you. This timeless feminine accessory will never let you feel unattractive again. 

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3. When in doubt, wear black- One of those days when you don't know what to wear, when you feel out of shape, when you don't want to experiment- just go for anything black in total look, or go for total black look with a touch of color. You can never go wrong with wearing black. And this versatile color is equally just enough to make you look attractive.
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4. See the beauty that your children see in you- You'll always receive the "best compliment" from them. I have my bad looking days, but trust me; I feel so confident to face the world when my daughter says,"Mama you're the most beautiful person. You always look the best." And all of a sudden I start feeling confident and beautiful:)

5. Accept your flaws-It's okay to know we're not "perfect." So embrace the best in you and feel good about it. Focus on the best and not the worst.

6. Apply lip gloss or matte lipsticks- This is my quick go-to make up tips. The right color can make your lip pop and helps in instant styling your look. Even on those boring days at work or in life- a bright color lipstick can uplift your mood, and will make you feel better.


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7. Stop your thoughts-stop your mind from talking negative all-the-time. Have positive and 'good' thoughts about yourself; like: I'm confident, I'm pretty, I can inspire, etc.

8. Get enough sleep- The "best" make up to your overall look and well-being depends upon -how many hours do you sleep? From past few months, I've had been sleeping only for 5-6 hours every day, and I totally look dull and tired, restless and bloated. To look fresh and beautiful all-the-time, you must have good enough sleep every night.

9. Wear brights-I love wearing bright colors and will continue wearing them! "There have been many people in my life -who passed negative comments about my clothes, shoes, and lipsticks-that they're too bright!" But believe me, it didn't bother me even a bit! I like what I choose to wear, and it's completely my decision to pick the ones' that fits me, or suits my taste. I know my style, and the way I would like to carry myself. So keep calm and wear brights.

A bright pop of color in your outfit or mix of brights can instantly make you look attractive. It has always helped me in lifting my mood and my day.


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10. Experiment or 'play dress up' with your wardrobe-ditch you usual regular combination of clothing/outfit; and try creating something new out of the existing ones. This is also a easy way to try something different, and feel beautiful - by looking yourself in the mirror again and again. Trust me, you'll end up having some good feeling, and you'll be more relaxed to face the next day.

11. Show the world you're confident-confidence is the key to beauty. Developing real self-confidence (about oneself) can boost your emotions and opinions about yourself. It can make you look prepared to face challenges and more presentable. 

12. Have the 'best' unique piece of accessories-My "favorite" collection of bags and shoes helps me turn heads even when I'm not looking that attractive. Sometimes carrying a "perfect" bag/clutch, or wearing those "perfect" pair of shoes can help us feel good and confident about our look and beauty.

13. Stay inspired all the time-look for the inspirations around you. Doesn't matter if you would like to include it in your style or not; but you'll continue to feel stylish, and having a good sense of fashion.

14. Don't try to copy style that doesn't seem comfortable to you

15. Often look yourself in the mirror

16. Always follow the 'essential' make-up or self-care routine before going to bed-like applying hand cream, foot cream, washing you face and applying toner, and completing it with a "good" night face cream.

17. Have a collection of some bold and subtle pieces of statement jewelries- will help you when you feel confused about what to wear. Just complete your look by wearing a statement piece of necklace or any earrings, and you'll never look dull.


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18. Have at least one nice 'stylish' watch- not just an essential part of beauty for every man and woman; but also an easy way to look stylish/chic. Some prefer wearing a different watch every day- or at least a different strap. Others wear the same one day in and day out. Choose what you would like to wear and how.

Have a bracelet and or a watch in your wrist every time you step out of your house- to look more pretty, elegant, and smart.

19. Write down your to do make up and beauty tips you would like to follow or learn about in future. Explore, learn, and try it.

20. Rest, relax and drink plenty of water- natural way of looking beautiful and having a glowing skin. Just eat healthy and relax often. Feel good from within that will in turn show on your face.

We all struggle with self image and confidence at some point in our life. But these simple tricks each day helps me to love myself and to feel grateful about the life I've been gifted with. They make me feel special every time I think I am going to sink into the negative self image of myself.

Hope you find them of some use to make yourself look beautiful, and feel beautiful every day. Do leave me your thoughts in the comments.



Thursday, May 12, 2016

How To Simplify Your Life in 18 Different Ways


Life's (everyday) simple small pleasures are enough to brighten your day. We may feel happy to have obtained everything that a "successful life" demands; but  the fact-value of such living can be very demeaning.
Life is "predictable" in certain ways like; when it comes to 'making choices,' and "best" decisions for our health and wellness. A simple life means,"creating the life we want to live." And creating a simple life requires many healthy and better practices for ourselves. A little decluttering and clearing all the "messes" can help us see clearly- how simple our life can be!

I've always seen my life getting seriously complicated; when I take in too much of everything, and forget myself. I stress out completely. I run into "unnecessary" worries and let them stay with me. For me life would've remained just like this forever and ever; if I hadn't taken few "necessary" decisions for myself and my family.


Doesn't matter how much we avoid it, but due to many external forces (those make a part of our life like; friends, society, relatives, co-workers, etc) we end up living someone's life. We are forced to act and do things that people expect of you. We add layers of complexity to our lives. Sometimes it can be avoidable; but many times it can be difficult!

A simple life may not promise you lots of friends, too many fans and followers, rich and famous lifestyle, or "you're the best" title; but you'll definitely have a healthy lifestyle, a happy home where you'd like to come back every evening after a stressful day at work or in school or college, happy cheerful kids, satisfying job that may be enough to give you all the necessities of life, and a peaceful happy living. Don't you think we're getting too much when we learn to make time for our life, when we know the simple tricks to simplify our life


A "perfect life" never makes a simple life. It is always the effort we put in creating extraordinary living out of simple things available to us, makes a different life altogether. A life that is purpose-driven; and where there is  lot of room to learn, share, live, and grow.

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I'm ready to take on this journey of simplifying my life in every possible ways. Are you? Then come along and pick the ones that you think you can do. Ignore the rest!

1. Learn your habits- especially the unhealthy ones first and try incorporating some "new" healthy and good practices in your every day life.

2. Clean the clutter- any kind of chaos, stress, clutters; just make room for fresh, clean, and favorite stuffs! Giveaway or discard the rest. If possible spend some time alone every day and understand the reasons that's causing clutters in your home, in your life, or in any relationships.

3. Always keep a check on your mindset and mood fluctuations- like your too much of indulgence in any kind of negative thinking or behaving responses; etc.

4. Have more laughs each day- either with friends, family or just all by yourself; but don't spend a day without "laughing out loud."

5. Don't pamper and let grow your ego- remember, it's okay to sometimes go back and say sorry. Accepting your mistake is a great way to simplify your life. It takes real guts to say sorry or forgive someone. Do it for yourself and drop those bags of guilt, anger, hatred, and humiliation. Make your life less regretful, and allow changes -that you have never even tried.

6. Mind your day- how we start our morning and spend our day sums up to how we're choosing to live our life; like, how do you spend your day, what things do you do from the time you wake up in the morning to the time you go to sleep at night, if you worked on your priorities or not, etc.

7. Find some free time every day for yourself- and that's when you do your "best" or favorite stuffs. If nothing, just relax, and recreate your lost energy, patience, and enthusiasm. You will be able to see things more clearly.

8. Love and be loved-by being with people who love you madly, unconditionally. Express your feelings and stay in heart. Keep your loved ones in your heart and thoughts; and take some time out for them, or with them.


9. Stay attractive and always in style- your "best" way.

10. Always stay connected with your inner self or spiritually.

11. Practice less judging and less expectations- Working on this.

12. Being more physically active.

13. Being happy with less.

14. Less talk and "do" more.

15. Complain less- working on this one as well.

16. Do every task of yours' very slowly and carefully- paying full attention to what you're doing, what you're talking, what you're listening, why you're doing; or how best you can do!

17. Fill your day with simple pleasures.

18. Pay more attention to listening everyone than speaking your thought/reaction- I'm working on this one too!

So what do you think, how you can simplify your life, and or make it simple? Do leave me your thoughts. What would you add to this list? Let me know in the comments.


Wednesday, May 4, 2016

May is for 'More': May Inspirations

Wow it's feels like just yesterday I said goodbye to April; and we are half way through May already! I know time never stops for anyone. That's true! I stumbled across this awesome quote while I  was  thinking to do my first post of May. 

"Time will pass anyway, don't give up your dream no matter how hard it seem or how long it will take to reach it." - Blaze Olermiday


May is definitely my favorite; as it's my birthday month, beginning of vacations, more sunny days which means more of outdoor life, etc. Before my kids' summer vacation starts, I want to complete most of the writing stuffs before hand;  so that I will have some quality time with family. Also I am looking forward to taking more pictures this month,. I have many plans and some tiny little goals for this month. I'm all set to take few steps further towards creating a "better life" for myself and my family.  

Below I'm sharing few of the 'important' tasks/changes that I am going to work upon consistently and dedicatedly all through this month. I hope you find them equally motivating!


May for me is going to be a month for doing 'More' in terms of :


1. 'More Reading'

2. 'More Writing' 
2. Practicing Mindfulness
3. Spending more time 'being better' health wise as well as for my personal development
4. Being more productive and managing my energy
5. Getting my needs met
6. Investing in my well being




So you will find more of my posts reflecting on the above mentioned areas of my life, this month. If you think these subjects can be of any inspiration to you; then keep me in your heart and stay connected:) 
I have some spring/summer style, and feel good inspirations coming along too! So I have lots to share before I say goodbye to May. Hopefully I will be able to keep up with my posts more often than not.

I'm going to focus a lot on "mindful practices" this month. If you have missed my previous post on mindfulness here is the link 



So what comes to your mind first when you hear or read this "magical" word anywhere: Meditation, peaceful surroundings, calmness, positive mind, renewed energy levels, or being present?

My own definition is somewhat like this: "Paying quality and close attention to every detail of my life and wellness; in a more open way. Definitely being more aware of your "present."



So Welcome May! Bring Everyone More Peace, Happiness and Better Life.


Hope you all have a Bright and Beautiful May:)


How do you like the pictures? Don't forget to leave me your thoughts about this post in the comments below. 

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