Thursday, November 21, 2013

My Poem~~"A SMILE CAN TAKE YOU MILES."



A smile, even though for a while;
Can create a mind that's agile.
It helps you forget the bad and reminds you to stay calm for some while.
I have seen hearts melting;
I have seen beautiful moments quilting.
A Smile creates a beautiful heart and keeps evil thoughts apart.



I have seen miracles; kids teach their elders how to stay musical.
A Smile reflects a person’s heart.
Have you ever got illumined by someone’s sweet words!
A Smile is mightier than words; because you can pass a smile to the person you don’t even know.
Now I know why Smiling faces attract hearts, unspoken words and help bridging gaps.

A Smile can make you insane.
I don’t want others to know my pain.
A Smile can speak a lot, even without doing any talk.

A Smile is all I need!
To pass it on to the weeping hearts; those are tired, yet wishful.
Now they can go to sleep and wake up being calm and restful.

A new life awaits you!!!
Do not try finding reasons to make others hate you.
Just Smile! And Life will Smile Back at you.






IF YOU DON'T LIKE SOMETHING......LEARN IT!

I don't like Dad interfering in my matters.
I don't like, when my Mom asks me to do household works.
I don't like, when teacher gives home tasks.
I don't like, when my boss blaims me.
I don't like, when my in-laws advices me about everything.
I don't like, when my husband accuses me of not being a good wife and a good mother.

From the day, we understand relations, society, responsibilities, we start not liking things. So if we don't like something, the simple rule I realised is- learn to live it.A general human tendency- If we do not like something, we find it difficult to accept; but from certain experiences, I have learned not to accept it, but 'learn it'. How contradicting!!!


I want to share an experience with you my friends.

When I moved from field job (reporting) to a company job, the role seemed to be more difficult than what I had imagined. Above all what was hurting me day and night, was the reponsibility I was given. If I will be able to speak to customers or not!! Would I be able to understand their problems and provide a correct solution? What if I get stuck in some queries, should I walk straight to my colleague or my team leader for help? "Fear and Depression". I started feeling mad and thought of quitting immediately. Everytime I stepped into the office, the very sense of failure and humiliation used to bring down my confidence level. Fear and resentment dominated my thoughts.

The only thing I knew about this job is- 'I don't like it and cannot continue anymore'. Great people have said- "If you don't like something, change it. If you cannot change, change your attitude. Do not complain." I found it difficult and therefore agreed to learn it rather changing it. It will be difficult to change y our parent's opinion, influence your manager often, change your husband's thought, convincing in-laws or being a perfect mother; because we are not perfect, we are parents.


I was always overrided by the fear of being wrong. All you need to do is, "Dust off your horn and start tooting it." Only you can decide whether you want to carry that around with you foreover. Life is short.


Learning isn't about accepting your defeat, rather showing the world that you are capable of anything and everything; if considered on a positive note. I admire being called a 'silent fighter'. This is the time to show your guts out. So dare! you call me a looser or incapable of accomplishing things.


Always try and take people's negative accuses as your positive energy. Yes! you can, if you think so. You do not have to go and show it to each and everyone of them. The best thing will shine bright and high in the sky, and the world will see a new achiever. Do not bother about winning or loosing the game, just plat play it for the sake and enjoy. Afterall it's your life and you need to find a way out to be happy and peaceful.


Wednesday, November 20, 2013

I was thinking of the roads we trudged together-A Poem for Daughter from Mother......

I earnestly wish to walk with you- from dusk till dawn
From one end of the world to the other,
From freezing point to melting point;
Where things will never get stuck!

I want to know you better
Beyond caring and understanding;
Walking together can help us understand our future.

Things if turn upside down and
I no longer exist to find it out!
Promise me you will never give up.
Fight and win every drop.
Before I retire from life, I want to remember every story we created together.

I was thinking of the roads we trudged together.
I was thinking of the paths we created together.
I was thinking of the shoes we loved to wear together
I was thinking of the streets, lanes, gardens and parks; we roamed carelessly, holding each other’s hand.
We made eyes move, when we eloquently grooved.
We left the atmosphere behind.
Who cares what they think about us, if anything beyond, being kind!


Life is not always fair. 

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Before you accept to Divorce, Revisit and Revise your Relationship Vows:





“Children see magic because they look for it.”
                                        Christopher Moore

Have we stopped believing in magical stories or just that we have outgrown childhood fantasies that used to be our inspiration to live and grow big as a beautiful girl or a handsome boy? I have been stuck emotionally from past few days. I would rather say, ‘crushed within the deep thoughts’, when I heard series of heartbreaks caused by divorce. I could not believe when I learned that, few of my friends got divorced.

I have always been horrified by this word, ‘divorce’. I am a wife and a mother of a 3 year old daughter, but I still fail to understand the reasons behind such act. But after such numerous instances, I was forced to rethink about the loss, any divorce can cause.

I want to understand why the relationship that was so dear to me suddenly appeared to look bitter. Are we missing on any possibilities that could have saved our relationship? Can we again start thinking like a child and believe in some magic to happen. Why are we becoming so vulnerable to such incidents in our life? Can we stop break-ups? Thousands of questions and possibilities are running in my mind right now.

 I am not writing this article to discuss faults, solutions or share the to-do list. I would rather want you all to walk with me for a moment and revisit your life from day one, when you started walking alone and then found a partner to tread along with you and you kept going and going, until circumstances stopped you both again.

No family is perfect, but we together make it a perfect place to breathe in peacefully. Husband and wife together, create a place called ‘Home’, and then secure all the walls together by tying it with love, trust, dreams, respect, values, mistakes, compromises and corrections. When any one of these starts falling apart, they work harder to get it along together. That’s when a family is created and sustained.

Even before such instances trigger in our life, can we not correct it in advance? I discussed with one of my friends, who went through this tragedy and realized that she kept complaining about her husband’s fault unless she released that, she was equally responsible for the differences they welcomed in their relationship.

 I don’t want to be judgmental in saying that, it’s both of yours life and you should be responsible and aware about where things are going wrong. Try to flashback your memory and think when you both stopped liking each other or did not spend much time talking to each other? We start distancing, when we stop understanding.

Men and Women are made up of different qualities. One quality commands over other in different situations. It is absolutely ok to be submissive, quiet and a kind husband/wife at some point in your relationship. If you are ready to sacrifice today, you will gain a better life tomorrow.

The most important thing we forget is the kid (s) that gets affected emotionally through this phase. They may seem to get away with such changes, but the internal damage lasts forever and they fail to trust relationship.

After few months of my friend’s divorce, I saw her changing physically and trying hard to stay happy and busy. I was happy to learn that, but I asked her one day, “Did you try doing all this while you were in the relationship?” She said no. 

I asked,"did you try knowing his likes and dislikes after a certain point in your relationship?"
No, "she answered."

"Weren't you too bossy at times and did not try to comprehend the masculine nature?"

Yes, maybe I guess, "she answered."

After we reach a certain stage in our marriage, we start taking things for granted. We often decline to understand each other’s temperament, because everything was fine initially. As your relationship grows older, so does your nature. Changes occur financially, socially and personally. We tend to face new challenges as we grow older as married couple.

Try harder even before you start to regret. Drop all egos and start learning your life.

Believe in your magical power and take time to settle down disputes. There is no comparison to the ‘woman’ power. Learn to stay calm in any arguments and understand the nature of a boy in your man. They tend to be more aggressive and assertive than woman.

If you take that extra step now and try to understand the reasons/external factors that are triggering bitterness in your marriage relationship, I hope you can save it today.

Whenever there is a divorce or break-up, we always try to put the blame on our partner. But how many of us really speak out our faults? This is a no blame game. This is both of your life, and only and only you both can save it from ruining.

Hunt for that magical spill that can save your relationship. You will see magic is happening, only when you look for it.


Never forget, that he was your only favorite person you ever believed, and had dreams to carry on your life with. Trust me! Magic happens. But we need to keep believing and working towards it. Don’t give up! Hope my article will help you in protecting this beautiful relationship, called Marriage.

Failures Create Success Stories.



After umpteen failures, I learned, trying each time gave me new energy, new focus and new life to live and challenge to survive~~~Epsita

I now thank my failures, for teaching me to survive my dreams.

 I am happy that I may not be somebody today, but at least I am one among someone, who dares to do what she likes and happy to embrace rejections too!! I am not afraid of rejections and negative comments, because I know what I am doing, and will definitely attract good comments one day. Society, friends, family, relatives; all will ignore your wishful thinking, but only you have the power to make them believe in you.


 If you fail to convince them, choose your journey and move ahead. Don't stop to take permissions, because sometimes people believe when they see and realize and not before that!


If you have never failed in your life, you cannot know how  success looks like and what it is like to be called a 'challenger'.  I am living my dreams and I believe that, I will achieve it one day!!! Challenge your weaknesses and you will do things, you thought you can never do. 

Every time some incident or event challenge your capabilities, learn to remember those negative comments and behavior and you will never go off track again. Pasts never remain past. They always interfere and torture our present. So, I have learned to remember my past to boost my present. I get more energy and new strength to fight my challenges in the present. 


Learn to remember and embrace your failures. They are the strong energy boosters. Do not feel guilty or angry at your past. Feel happy to know that your self-realization got you here, where you never thought, you could reach. Learn from the number of failures and turn each of them into new milestones in your life.

The Fear of Failure.





“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage and confidence in the doing”~~~Unknown

We are so often shut by the ‘fear of failure’. ‘Fear of failure should never be a reason, not to try something’, I read somewhere. This prevents us from even knowing, 'what can any failure look like?' Fear is one of the most harmful attitudes, found even in the strongest of all. This completely controls the' power of trying'. Once we learn to make friendship with fear, the result is awe-inspiring.

I remember my first job as a field reporter. Immediately after completing my Masters in Communication, I got a job in one of the news publication. I was more interested in writing featured articles upon social causes,  but being completely new to the field, I was asked to try in the news desk first, and later to move on to the feature section. I always got scattered by the fear of failure, even before trying anything. I started feeling tensed by the very thought of humiliation and rejection. The fear of 'I can't do this’, stopped me from even going out and hunting for news. I had that 'nose for news', but may be not the skills to turn a news story into a sensitive story, because of many limitations like; reporting structures, space, orders, as per publication rules etc. Slowly, I started to believe in something- I call as, "failure power". 

Failure truly had some extra hidden powers to turn my every no to 'yes’'.


 I failed in my first, second, third; may be in many attempts. Only thing that I kept repeating to myself is, “try, and try until you fail”. Finally, I succeeded this time. I got my first by-line for bringing in, exclusive, interesting story that got a special space in the newspaper. I learned the tricks from my errors. I was so happy to learn that, I had already become confident in this process. I knew where to and how to proceed.

Since then, I don't mind being called a failure or a loser anytime, because, I am aware of my strengths and knowledge. You definitely not have to be a genius or excellent in achieving success. 


For me, Excellency does not always define top academic results or cream of the crop students. Count your success by the 'number of failures turned into success'. They are the most realized and hardworking people in the planet, because they know what it is like to achieve success, when others thought you are just a loser. 


Make failures, a part of your process, and soon we will learn about the strengths we can discover out of any failure in our life. We will be surprised to know about our capabilities and talents. I did that! Now, I am not hurt when I meet any of my friends, peers who knew, 'I was nothing'. I do not hesitate to invite or add them to my friend’s list anymore, because I know I am doing things differently. I am doing what I have always liked doing, but never had the courage to do it and face the world. 


I was afraid of being called a failure again! In all these years, I have become much stronger and aware of these important questions, we often ask ourselves. What I like to do? Why I should do, what I like doing? Will this get me success? Where and how can I start? Will this also help me earn a peaceful and satisfactory life? We very often get stuck in finding appropriate answers to such questions, because we forcefully keep ourselves happy and satisfied in what we are doing, whereas, the inside me always wanted to do something else. Something which I like and have has always dreamed of.


‘Failures are good’. They help us find out our potential strength. We may not be something today, but the knowledge and experience we gain out of it is commendable. That does not mean, we have to always face failures to be successful in life; but when we fail, we learn about hidden qualities within us. We gain strength and courage to rise up and try again. 


Try something that, we can do. Most important, we like to do! When you like something, you will definitely put your heart, soul and faith into it. You will do lots of research; find channels to show it to others, invest your time, knowledge and experience, and nothing can stop this becoming a hit! Just ‘Believe in yourself’- Three mighty words, that will take you a long way.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

I learned to mock at life :)



Life to me is like an awful manager, who has never learned to appreciate Employees. Believe in dumping troubles and creating a messy environment for the employee. Even I am a dreadful learner, who has learned to never give up. I believe in learning and mastering. I take every negative challenge of my life and turn it into positive learnings, be it a personal or professional take away.
Everytime I was happy, the next moment turned out to bring sorrow and pain. That fear to enjoy and live my happy moments became nightmare and I started hiding emotions to myself. Now! I know how to Ride over those floating impediments. Now, I turn every failure to a success.....Want to know how? Read my next article..............

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