Monday, January 12, 2015

Am I worth enough to be noticed!

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This morning, I went through many good posts- starting from self-worth, advantages or disadvantages of social networking sites; from funny to satirical experiences, comparing behind-the-scene 'self' image with other's highlighted image, from responses acknowledging one's "worth" to comments asking- to 'follow back.'


Don't know why; but while reading these posts, I was trying to weigh myself.  I placed myself poorly in the comparison scale- that didn't have any readings! I was  immersing myself into comparisons and stacking reasons that was enough to not recognize my self-worth! 

Do I sound familiar? 

A little pinch of dissatisfaction is sufficient to bring down all you spirits, and efforts- you have been putting into your writings, blogs or in managing your fan pages. Such moments trigger anger, and endless reasons for not doing what you have loved doing in all these years!

I am sure: nobody was born famous and known! May be they were born with some inbuilt qualities that helped them in their endeavor- to be a successful blogger or a writer. But trust me, it takes a lot of your interest, curiosity, hard work, dedication and lots n lots of trust in your capabilities.

Are you one among them; who keeps their eyes and heart pinned to the comment box or to the like button- wishing that, the published post gets noticed! I dare to accept that, "I am one among them too!" 

When there are some days like; I receive no visit on my blog- for some of the posts, I feel disheartened and rejected. Such events force me to  think- that writing is not my cup of tea, and I should stop it right here! 

Rejections are not easy to accept. So are the failures!

The burden of past rejections and negative comments - about my writing skills constantly came back and reminded me of my fears; but I decided, "I will face my fears and will find out the results." Glad I did! Since then I started taking baby steps towards 'writing.' I am proud to say; "I have survived failures, and never gave up." I learned the hard way!  

"I am still not a pro; but I am learning and improving everyday."

"My dream will definitely meet the reality, one day!

I believe we all need to acknowledge and value self-worth! It definitely takes time to feel confident or 100% sure about your capabilities! 


Belittling yourself is not nice! When we are not sure about ourselves; doubt and comparison takes over our mind and heart. Whatever we do, doesn't seem to be fit for us. This also happens when we don't look upon ourselves - in a positive way. 


Try to look your best - as if nobody else is beautiful than you! But don't develop ego! Just have a 'positive' attitude towards; what you do in life, or how you look. 


Every time you seem to be in a state; where you doubt your self- worth, remind yourself that, you just have one life. A life that is going to give you hundreds of chances to - be 'you,' to think- what others' cannot! To create what others' never had an idea about! To inspire lives (doesn't matter just one life or too many!), to encourage hearts- that are sad and sulking. 


Share your stories and experiences. Who knows it might attract someone or many- to live a life with purpose and happiness.


I learnt from my everyday experiences that; "nothing should stop us or distract us from doing- what we have always dreamed of! Not even zero responses because we are sure to find wisdom (about blogging/writing), and know all the tricks some day! 

I am following my dreams; and that is more than enough to continue doing what I am doing now; or who I am today. Whether I get noticed or not- will never be the reason to bring down my enthusiasm and hard work. 

I don't want to complain tomorrow and feel regretful the whole life; thinking that- I never tried, never took risks, never listened to my inner voice;  or could never prove that- I can! 

42 comments:

  1. Epsita, I know what you mean... I have been blogging for over 5 years now, for the first 2 years I had very few readers...then when my 'D' and I didn't work out, I immersed myself in writing to help with all the pain. It was about this time that I started working on really putting it out there... that took another year and a half... Then the summer I started losing weight my followers grew and they continued on from there... I am glad I did not give up those first few years and I am happy to hear you won't either xox

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    1. Yes, Launna...I have learned along the way that; giving up is easy. I want to continue and win someday. I am sure, I will! I am glad you did too, and you must be seeing the wonders you gained in all these years....right? Surviving criticisms and negative comments is definitely not easy, but if YOU CAN- YOU WIN!

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  2. Hi Espita! Thank you for your sweet comment on my site. I'm glad you did, otherwise I wouldn't have found your blog. I love the topics you write on. I understand that feeling of wanting more readers. But what I've found what works best for me, is when I ignore the numbers and just focus on my work and the readers and comments I do get on my site. Blogging takes a lot of time and I doubt there's a single blogger who became famous with just a couple of posts. Most big bloggers say it took them 2 to 3 years to be known in the blogging community.

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    1. Hi Veronica,
      It was great to connect with you. We think likewise about life and positive thinking. I am so glad I found you! Definitely we can learn a lot from each other. Thank you for your comment. I have bee in in the blogging community since 2009; but started getting serious from 2011 and from 2013 I started posting frequently. Also, I was contributing articles to another site! So I know I have a long way to go! :) That's why I have promised myself to post at least one article every week:)
      Thanks again for sharing your insight and your wonderful words!!

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  3. I've just found your blog and I think it's really inspiring, it will be an honor for me if you can visit mine too, and if you want to follow, it will be a pleasure to follow you back! :) <3

    Fashion gets Fierce.

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    1. Thank you so much, sweetheart! Following your blog now:)
      Stay connected!

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  4. You have to keep at it----write daily and read, read, read! Build a solid base of blog followers. It takes a lot of time and effort but it will be worth it in the end!

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    1. Thank you, Marcia. Thank you for sharing the tips. I wrote this post with a view that reflects some message- I want to tell all of them like me, that failing in not the end- rather a beginning. Beginning of new 'you,' with surprisingly new powers and capabilities.
      Thank you for visiting me and leaving me a helpful comment!

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  5. This is a really great piece, I think that's what's most important here: not giving up. And as for readers, well you've definitely got a new follower! :) Keep up the good work!

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    1. Thank you so much, Sandra for such excellent positive words! You made my effort in writing this 'piece of message, really special! Following you with love. Thanks much!!
      Love
      Epsita

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  6. this is such a great post, very inspiring. In the past I did feel this way and I gave up on blogging. that was 3 years ago. now I've been starting to blog again since the end of October, and I'm doing just fine. This time I try not to give up :)
    You have a really nice blog, so motivational and nice to read :) therefore I'm going to follow you.
    feel free to follow me back if you want, if you don't like it then don't force yourself :)

    - www.angelaah91.blogspot.nl

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    1. Thank you very much, Angela for leaving me a positive feedback! This definitely means a lot. Glad to know you like my blog and the posts. I will try my best to share interesting 'positive' articles. Following you now!
      Love and kisses
      Epsita

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  7. Wonderful post! I think it's very easy to relate. I'm glad I have never given up blogging I've come come:( but I remember I started it for me and I enjoy updating it :) you have a lovely way with words and should keep writing and writing and sharing!

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    1. Thanks a ton, Christina! Your beautiful words truly made my day. So happy to learn that you were able to relate with your story. And I am glad, you didn't give up! I wrote this piece with a message that I want to share it everyone- like me- who has seen failures and rejections in their life. Never ever give up on what you want to do-with love and interest. Your hard work and dedication will definitely pay you one day:)
      Thanks again!

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  8. Love Love your blog post & blog name. In my case, I avoid comparing myself to anybody else
    & I also allow myself to make mistakes & try not to be too hard on myself because honestly
    when you see someone killing it out there you tend to question your own efforts a lot. It
    is difficult but once you let the process happen, slowly everything [even the failure] feels okay.

    Amazing post & would you like to follow
    each other on GFC, Google+ & Bloglovin? Lemme know & lets keep in
    touch!



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    1. Thank you very much, Subham. Very True! "Even Failures are easy to deal with, once we know how to."
      Sure! Following you back.

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    2. Followed you back. Keep in touch!


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  9. I so agree with this! You are valuable and special. There is nothing ordinary about you. :)

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  10. Nice post, thank you for sharing! I sometimes think the same way.
    xoxo
    http://thestyleberry.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you, Zane! Glad you liked it. Following you now on GFC and G+ ....

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  11. I do have the same thoughts as yours. I keep on writing even just a very short post.

    This post is really an eye-opener. Thanks so much for sharing. :)

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    1. Thank you very much, Balqis! Glad I did this post; because I am sure many of us struggle to overcome this feeling of failure and rejections. I hope this post will help many to feel good and give them courage to continue. Happy to know you liked it!

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  12. Hi!
    Amazing blog!
    Would you like to follow each other? (GFC, Bloglovin, Facebook)
    If so, please let me know, I will follow you back immediately.
    xoxo

    http://narvaga.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you, Narvaga! Thank you for stopping by. Following you now!

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  13. Great Post Dear! I am following you and following back if you like my blog :))) Kisses...
    http://tasarimkaravani.blogspot.com.tr/

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    1. Thank you so much! Following you now:)

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  14. Lovely post! :)

    I would like to invite you to my blog! I would be so happy if we support each other on Bloglovin, GFC and Facebook!
    Do it and let me know! xx

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    1. Thank you, Reneta:)
      Thank you for leaving me a comment. Following you now.

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  15. sounds very interesting, reat blog. Following you now, hope you will do the same
    http://aprettylife13.blogspot.hu/

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    1. Thank you very much, Aurelia:) following your lovely blog now!

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  16. Love this Xxx Keep up the positive messages, they're uplifting

    http://itsjustwinnie.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you very much, hun! Glad you liked it, dear!

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  17. Great post Epsita ! It was really interesting to read !

    www.luv4beautyblog.com

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