Thursday, April 30, 2015

The Day I Stopped Complaining!

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Things looked so different yet peaceful; when I stopped! Stopped looking at the negative happenings; and started focusing on the good things (that was happening at the moment). "I was surprised to find out that my day and life had another side too!;  which we ignore looking at most of the times- the better side! Because we busy our minds and thoughts complaining about the things- that is not working in our life.....be it as a wife, mother, friend or may be as an employee!"



Every day may be the same; but there is always something good about each day. When did we last realize the need to focus on the good side of our day? Once we tune our brain to the complaining mode; everything seems to be dissatisfying. Nothing works; and all efforts look meaningless.



"It didn't come as a surprise to me- rather more of a self-realization! I was feeling burdened by my day; grumbling, feeling frustrated, tired and exhausted. All I wanted was, to feel the beauty of my life again!" I decided,"I will stop going into the complaining mode; and will breathe life into my life story."

Things changed once for all! Every day's household  chores got easy now (the same every day work). I had the same responsibilities; and the same amount to work to do, but more peacefully this time-because I had created some time for myself; to breathe and let my family breathe too!"
Realizing our responsibilities rather than comparing and complaining with make things simpler and appreciable in a family. We just need to understand- that we all are doing our part- someway or other. So everyone needs a little space inside the family. We get so busy worrying and making everyone tensed and unhappy (sometimes) that; we forget to live happiness and enjoy life!


We are home makers; and the way we lead our life and the atmosphere within the house- will follow the life of every individual in the family.



"I guess; I took time to understand one simple rule of life; that if you don't find peace, peace will never find you!"

Wishing you All A Wonderful Weekend My Lovely Readers!

Sunday, April 26, 2015

7 Tips to Stay True to Yourself: Embracing Imperfections

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"Staying true to yourself needs a lot of courage;" rightly said. Isn't it!


Accepting yourself with the weaknesses definitely is not not easy! 

"I remember one of my good friends telling me once,"who will accept me with my negative qualities. They are my weaknesses, and I don't want to reveal it to anybody." I am sure she is not alone to think this way! That's why in any HR (Human Resources) Behavioral Interview round too; one of the questions happen to be: "What are your strengths and weaknesses?" And we get confused or stuck in giving the right answers.

Accept that we are humans; and humans don't come as perfect as can be expected! But as long as we can accept ourselves; just the way we are- the level of expectations being a 'perfect man or woman' may just remain unaffected.

"From the day I decided to embrace my imperfections; life got easier for me. I am no more afraid of revealing my true-self to anybody; because I have become better while travelling through those imperfections! My talents were dominated by my fears and weaknesses."


We live in a society; where we are constantly under pressure of 'faking' ourselves. We cannot show or act- just the way we are-whether at home, or outside! Everyone expect us to act the way-they think is appropriate; and such expectations make us battle with our own selves-"the battle between the true you and the portrayed you." "From the day I decided to lift this fog away of what everyone else want for me; and from me; I became more peaceful. I started accepting myself with all the faults; and this helped me to rediscover a new 'me'."


I hope you may find these steps helpful in accepting yourself just as you are-when you are in the constant struggle of switching places, between being just you; and being what others want you to be:


  1. Find Yourself in Silence:  Every-time you fail to convince yourself-what is right, and what is wrong; spend time just with yourself! Find out what is right, and why? I am sure you will be able to find answers to all your doubts; because nobody else can know you better. Also you will get some time-being just 'you'.
  2. Find Inspirations that inspire you to make good changes in life: "I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become."    -Carl Jung.                                                                       Every single day gives us plenty of reasons to be better and feel better. All we need is an eye-that can see the good.  
  3. Alter your beliefs and expectations about yourself and the world: What you believe is what you get. Start seeing yourself  with a different perspective. Know that you cannot be perfect in everything. Hone your qualities- that you are good at and leave the rest. Try to expect what is possible and can be achieved. Concentrate on the good happenings around you; and the good will prevail. What you live; and how you live will determine how your society, surroundings and the world will be!
  4. Surround yourself with the right people: Have a bunch of encouraging and motivating people in your life. Surround yourself with people who makes you feel good-just the way you are; and accepts you honestly; without faking. Find a group of happy and caring people; and learn from them-what life looks like to them!
  5. Accept yourself honestly: Important is, what you think-you are! How you evaluate yourself? Know your negative qualities and see if they hurt or trouble your close ones. Do you think, you need to change them and be better? Have a self-talk quite often!
  6. Find happiness in your present condition: Finding happiness in your present life and in your present job while not letting your negative emotions guide you; will ease your journey towards- a better confident you! Listen to your health, mind and body; when it's time to recharge and feel good. Take short breaks from everyday routines, relax and enjoy as much as you can; before you get back to the same everyday life!
  7. Don't push yourself off limits to just put on a good face: A worst thing anybody would do to please themselves and others; because the effect is unsatisfying and temporary. You cannot act good or very good for someone every day-just to make them happy and pleased with you! Do not push yourself to become- what you are not; or what you think you can never be! The results can be very frustrating.
Find strengths in your weaknesses. Embrace imperfections; and learn yourself more and more each day. God will always open the doors of possibilities; only if you believe that; "a good change is possible." 

Friday, April 24, 2015

Women and Shopping: Style, Fun and Emotions

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Women and shopping are inseparable. In a way; shopping happens to be a woman's 'best friend' in her good days as well as in her bad days. Either it is a style matter or just for pleasure; but most of the times; it is connected to some kind of emotions. Emotions that run high-or-low;  and make a woman run after spending. Lately, "I read an article about 'emotional spending'; and I was not surprised to know the facts (though it was more about the psychological and medical conditions behind emotional spending)." But if you really sit alone and think about it; I am sure; as an woman we will find so many reasons that will explain certain emotions; that drive us to go shopping! 


Please Note: This article is not intended to describe any medical conditions; nor the intention is to hurt any woman's feelings; rather a light-hearted write-up to touch certain areas of emotions- in a woman. 


"I have also mentioned in many of my articles that; shopping happens to be my favorite mood-lifter; and or can be yours too!" No harm in treating yourself quite often! We all have certain wishes and needs-that pushes us to go and buy something for ourselves. Sometimes latest fashion trends attract women to go shopping; and sometimes the building-up worries and frustrations in life. Many a times; purchasing the 'best' and 'unique' things for oneself; usually has its roots in the early childhood experiences. A reminder of certain unfulfilled demands and wishes; that elope and re-appear in our late years. 

When we are kids, or in our teens- we develop so many dreams; and gradually as we begin to grow; our dreams look too-difficult-to-be-true! 

We go through numerous emotions, and find it difficult to control or even understand when we are in our early ages; but things get clear and more easy to understand, as we grow. But I will still say,"shopping for yourself is always the best thing you can do. The best treatment, as every girl and woman deserves to look their best; and feel good at the end-of-the-day." Just that don't get emotionally controlled by spending and shopping too much; but yes! if you can financially-go for shopping; and get the BEST for yourself :):):)

Have A Lovely Shopaholic Weekend Lovelies!

Monday, April 20, 2015

6 Ways To Stay Positive and Feel More Happy In Your Life.

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Feeling Positive is knowing that, "I can see and feel the positive effects of people, places, and circumstances." A conscious acceptance to set our mind free of all complaints and to embrace life as it is!"


Just trying to feel positive only for that moment; will never make you a positive person! Living a positive life needs lots of Ps: Patience, Practice, Peacefulness, Purpose, Passion, Possibilities, and the Power of Gratitude.

Everything starts with the practice; and then stretches to having patience while living your purpose and bringing in peace to life; and keeping the doors open to possibilities and feeling the power of gratitude . It depends where and how you want to start! It is completely your decision; but make sure; the result is feeling 'positively complete' at the end of the day!

These days we read a lot of articles, news and stories on practicing positive thinking and having a positive attitude. Everything remains within; until we finish reading the last word; and then things go back to where it was before we started reading- and or thinking about the attitude, that needs to be changed! Even realizing the good and bad impact of our thoughts takes a back seat in our head and sleeps!


So how do we stay positively inspired; or inspired to include more positive energy into our life?
This is your chance to do it; by making life happen the way you choose. 

More Life. More Happiness and More Positive Energy in your everyday life.

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"I have experienced something strange yet helpful in my life: From the day I started focusing on the positive happenings in my life; I was less concerned about the negative things and reactions around me! I chose a purpose to stay firm on this new chosen path; and things started looking different for me. May be everything was just the same- but I had started looking at things differently-to say; a more open way, without faking the facts!"

Staying or feeling positive does not require any formula or defined theory-that you need to remember and apply in life. Rather, it is an attitude that gets better each day- with lots of practice and more efforts.


"Openness to accepting things and behavior- that's not always favorable to us; but through positive attitude; developing the strength to accept, what's required and to walk past-what's not; help us better understand-how a positive person looks like!" 


I would like to share a couple of ways; I practiced seeing the positive side of life and continued staying positive thereafter. I hope these will help you too: 

  1. Set a conscious reminder that; "I want to feel happy today"-no matter how my day looks!
  2. Change your focus: Always look for what is right in a person or situation and ignore what is not right; as you can never change them. So better focus on the good quality and good happenings rather than worrying about their bad attitude!
  3. Find a purpose or a passion that can keep you busy in a productive way. This will also help you avoid unnecessary negative thoughts and reactions to certain behaviors. 
  4. Be positively strong to face negative people and circumstances! Practice being peaceful and smiling all-day amidst the haters, and unhappy or inappreciable crowd. 
  5. Stay inspired: anywhere you go or anything you do.
  6. Always live in the present and feed your mind with good quality thoughts: I am sure you would agree with me that,"people are too busy to know what you were; rather what interests them more is; what you are today and what you are doing at present!" So be guilt-free and regret-free of your past or yesterdays'. Live for today! Nothing should shatter your objective of staying happy and peaceful; for yourself.

You will always find what you are looking for! So look for the good; and let good thoughts, good deeds and good life look at you!

Leave me a comment and let me know how are you going to include more happy and positive feelings in your life? 



Monday, April 13, 2015

Everyday Inspiration#5: Stay In Style Even In 'Bad Weather'.

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You don't always need a reason to do everything in your life. You simply do it; because that brings you joy and happiness. That makes you- "you." 

Simply finding reasons to stay beautiful all-day, everyday can be difficult; because all-days are not same. Days are different. Weather can be different. Our mood and taste can be different- and so can be our health, look, age; and life. Everyday matters, specially when we want our days to be happy, fulfilling, fashionable and meaningful. Staying beautiful in these days may seem challenging. But do not give-up on looking beautiful and wearing style-as it matters!


  Before you leave house; look yourself in the mirror and be peaceful to know that,"you are looking gorgeous today-in your way." "I am sure everything else will fall in place as the day will unfold to you!"


Staying inspired to look beautiful and stay beautiful is as important is it to staying healthy and fit! Adore your 'personal style'


Create a personal look that will scream-who you are; without having to speak anything about yourself. Follow trends if you like following up-to-date-fashion; but if you are not one among those-feel confident and true about your own style. I am sure you must be having different likes and tastes (in the way you want to look and dress-up); as mine. So go for it and create a signature style for yourself. A look that is meant to impress you first; and then definitely, it will attract others too!


Creating a unique personal style for yourself not only boosts your confidence; but also honors your personal beauty and look-that is meant for you. For your skin and body!


With too many fashion blogs, fashion style guides, style and make-up bloggers' on rise these days, we may feel valueless or not-stylish some-days. No doubt such blogs and bloggers' are doing their best to help us stay inspired in fashion, look, beauty and style; but still many a times we may feel low and unhappy and even incomplete when we try to compare ourselves with them. "I am not asking you to not follow them; but rather just stay confident about your body and look; and the way you dress-up or do make-up. 

"I myself refer, and follow so many favorite fashion and beauty blogs-when it comes to looking at new fashion trends; or following fashion and style-specially in those days, when I feel very low, or frustrated, and or uninspired.  Such blogs/bloggers help me gather my spirits, and feel good and confident again!"

'Dressing yourself' creates new fashion around you. People who think themselves to be the most-stylish and fashionable men and women on earth; also starts following you and your style.


Believe in your beauty, body and personal style. The key to staying in fashion is finding one for yourself-everyday! So from today feel good and peaceful about -who you are as a person and start experiencing confidence in personal fashion style.


If you don't want; don't follow the crowd! Create something new and exciting for yourself- in fashion and style. STAY YOU. STAY BEAUTIFUL!




Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Everyday Inspiration#4: Ways to Stay Positive in Negative Situations

Hello! Beautiful Readers.
Sorry for writing after a month. I was on vacation; and had lovely time with family and friends. But I missed you all so much! Glad, I am back to my world again.  I had amazing time; as well as miserable time during this gap. Learned a lot from people and experiences. Would like to share one very important topic about-how to deal with negative people and circumstances in everyday life. I tried and applied every possible ways to deal with such people; for only one reason- I wanted to be peaceful and happy from within. I hope these possible ways will help you too!

 "It was again that time in my life- when I was going to face realities; my fears and certain relationships-that was way, way too difficult to settle with, in anyways! But I had no choice but to face those awful situations-again!" 


Every time we go back and face the actual bothering people and circumstances in life; we realize that-days are not going to be easy. "I always knew that; but had no other choice." 


"I was not worried about how they are going to accept me today; rather had only thought that occupied my mind was; I want to be in peace and stay happy and mindful during my stay. Yes! lots of peace and harmony for myself and my kids, during this stay. Anything and everything that will come up-should not shake my faith and the efforts  to remain positive in any negative circumstances. It was the real test for me after a long time; and I was ready for it. I think I was!"


In any situation; life will always give you two choices- either go with the flow or go against it. Definitely one will be easy than the other; but choice is ours. Going against is not always easy, and going with it is tough to do than said."So I decided, I will make peace with myself by accepting things that's coming my way."


It is always true that,"people will accept you the way they accept things. You cannot change them; if they don't want to." So no use struggling to change anyone. Rather live and love your life. "If you understand and realize that; you need to change, edit or delete certain qualities or behavior of yours', do it." As realization is the key to change; for better.


Here are the certain ways, I tried to stay happy, peaceful and positive amid negative people and circumstances:



1. Never surrender to your fear. Face it!

2. Remember, you are not alone.
3. See the good side that's happening right now!
4. Find inspiration around you-like reading an inspiring book or watching something uplifting.

5. Keep your mind occupied in good tasks.
6. Worship or Meditate.
7. Have Faith.
8. Believe things will change and the worst days are temporary.

"Remember! you are important; and so is your life. Everyday matters; how you spend it and or live it! Take good care; as nobody else can; or ever will!"


I am going to do some follow-up articles in this topic-in the coming days. So, stay in touch! 

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