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The Positive 'She': How to Train Yourself to be More Positive

Do you wish to face the world with grace and a positive outlook; but often fail staying positive; then you have landed at the right place! I hope when you leave after reading this post; you discover your own 'powers' (positive energy) to give yourself a positive makeover.

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"Life is not an easy decision." If you have to live; you have to face changes and challenges. And we; as an all women are the most vulnerable  population; who suffers the massive destruction with the changes in life. Some changes are often passed through legacy and cultures.  Sometimes we try best to adjust to anything and everything, that comes our way;  and sometimes, we try even harder to get over those unforeseen unforgiving 'truths' of life. 

Do you really wish to meet and celebrate that 'positive woman' inside you; then come along with me to know how?

Simple life changing practices can tune our brain to see more positive around us; and to react less in a negative way! You just need to adapt few skills (learning to make peace all-the-time) that can feed your brain some positive messages. And when you make a shift in the way you accept things in your life; you can see a difference.

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 There are so many (like me); who writes and thinks positive, but certain instances get so forceful, that they make us take a u-turn; and the negative emotions again start hovering over our 'present life. Often life will not go the way we want it to be; but we can bring a change by being more mindful and conscious (of the moment).

I want to share few of the ways I have had started training myself to not take that u-turn in my life, rather continue being a 'positive woman.' Let's celebrate the positive things is life- together:-

1.  Don't take-in too much!

There's always a limit to accepting negative people, behaviors and circumstances in your life! When you see that things have started troubling you, putting lot of pressure on you- STOP!

Yes, stop accepting them or dealing with them right at that moment. I am not asking you to abruptly say 'no' to them, as sometimes it can be a tough decision (even if it hurts). So just ask for some time, take a short break before you reconnect with them again, and think a workable way to deal with them (if you still want to continue) or otherwise let it go. Problems can be workable when we deal with patience, empathy and compassion. 

Before quitting; feel the importance and give it a try. Deal with your problems more patiently.

2. Mindful living

Practice it every day, every hour and every minute of your day. Count on your negative talks, complains, reactions and decisions. If you cannot keep a track, write it down and tweak your approaches. After few days you will start to see the desired behavioral changes towards everything that's life is throwing at you. 

For example- you will know what triggers your 'negative talks' about yourself, or about someone else! Next time you will try not to start similar discussions and can send a message to your brain that; it's okay to not be treated the "expected way" all-the-time.

3. Set yourself a 'loud' buzzer of not thinking negative

Whenever (night or day) you feel you are going to be "hit" by any kind of negative "impact", press the buzzer and stop your thoughts right there!

4. Find reasons to ignite your excitement about life

Stay excited about each day- with reasons (passions and purposes) that can help you wake up every morning with a big smile on your face and with a  "can do" spirit. Participate in "reasons" that you call with names like; purpose, dreams, passions, interests, craziness and madness:)

5. Stay busy. Rally really busy.

Keep yourself busy in creating other's life (family, friends, co-workers, organizations etc.) or your own life; but be a busy bee! Busy lives know they have no time to fear upon 'false' speculations and assumptions!

6. Say 'sorry' even after you realize you have just hurt someone

Saying sorry may sound too difficult; but dare to say it when you realize, you have hurt someone (knowingly or accidentally). It will give you plenty of satisfaction and some new energy to deal with similar difficult situations.

7. Practice Staying Calm

A calm mind can take good decisions. So practice staying calm; even when you feel like you are going to lose! Practice every day and you will be able to increase your ability to remain calm; even in torrid situations.

By practicing these steps every day; I know I am getting closer to becoming a 'positive woman' for my family and friends, and also for the world whom I am yet to reach! Remember, a positive outlook is a choice and you can choose the best for you! Your happiness matters- for yourself and for your immediate family.

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Leave me a comment and let me know what would you like to change or include in your life to be called- "A Positive She!"


  1. Epsita... keeping positive in an ever changing world isn't always easy but these are very good points to remember xox ♡

  2. This is perfect and a great message.

  3. Lovely post, have a beautiful day! kisses

  4. You made my day, I really need this!

    1. Thank you so much for the lovely words,Zane:)

  5. So interesting:) Passion is definitely something that motivates me and makes me happy:)

  6. Great ideas for staying positive! I do believe that we can train our mind to be calmer. When we work on our concentration and focus that can also help us keep calm in difficult situations. Keeping busy is important because when we feel productive, we feel good about ourselves.

  7. great post! really inspiring.

  8. Great post! I really like your blog! Very inspiring! =)

  9. Always encouraging and positive. Love this post. Thanks for the advise. :)

  10. I agree with all of these points and the third point is really cool idea!


  11. beautifull post
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  12. Wonderful post kiss

  13. This quite inspiring ♥♥

  14. Good advices...thank you...very useful ;)

  15. Great post, some lovely tips that I will have to adopt
    I look forward to becoming a more positive-she!

    Thanks for sharing!

  16. Much needed post..I am sure this is going to help many people :D

  17. Great post! Love the tips! It's hard sometimes to think positive but i think everyone needs to be positive as much as they can no matter how hard the situation is :)

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  18. such an inspirational post!

  19. Being positive is so important, always try to turn on the lights even in dark times (:

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  20. Couldn't agree more Epsita, Especially to the 'Stay Busy' one I usually do that. Thanks for sharing!
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  21. Hi dear
    Great post!!
    So usefule, thanks for sharing

  22. Useful advises...thank you for sharing ;)

  23. very nicely written. Its a great article to kickstart the week. Have a great one dear.
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  24. Great post dear! I love it:)

  25. This is inspiring!!! xx


  26. Great Post!!!

    I like the pics!!!

    xoxo Jacqueline


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