Monday, January 25, 2016

3 Simple Ways To Stop Thinking Negative

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"Stop it," right there! That instant!

Yes, halt your unproductive thoughts as soon as you feel you're having them. 

You can always choose your thoughts. As soon as you realize you are being approached by unwanted unhappy thoughts like; anger, frustration, jealousy, fear, worry, blame, selfishness, and comparison- please interrupt them, then and there. Immediately choose an activity that can engage your mind and heart 100 percent- something that can bring you joy and smile instantly! Completely shut down your "thinking process" at least for that moment of time, and move on to the good feeling activities; that's happening around you. 

Replace those errrrr feelings of frustration, that's stemming from you, for your failing efforts; or from other sources! But stop them right there.

There may be many defined rules and or tips to stop feeling negative; but everything will work only when we take the charge of our thoughts; and filter only the productive ones to have access to our heart and mind- may be with some mindful practices! 

 I have had been trying hard to find those reasons with which I can win over my negative thoughts. And finally, I got hold of them- nowhere else, but inside me. I was excited to learn about the "powers" we have inside us. If we want, we can for sure!

I would like to share those three simple ways, I have been practicing- how to mindfully shift my negative thoughts and feelings. I hope they'll be useful for you too!

1. Self-knowledge of the kind of thoughts you have.

"Self-awareness is the secret weapon for habit change"- read somewhere. When you know what you think, why you think and, how often you are hit by similar thoughts; you can accept yourself and others with an open mind. You now know the reasons that brings such thoughts to your mind, and you can avoid them in future.

2. Asking yourself few questions 

Every time you start feeling a little different (not the usual happy you), focus your mind and ask yourself few questions like: why do you even need to think about that person or incident? Are they important in your life? If not,
then why should you spoil your day for someone, who does not even hold a place in your heart? Are those thoughts necessary, or you're just having them because you don't have anything else to think about right now! 

Finding answers to such questions will not only involve your mindful decision; but will also engage you to understand the kind of thoughts that actually make your day?
See if you can, try and focus on the possible solutions, that may help you clear your mind by erasing the burden of unhappy emotions- at least for some time!

3. Stop the negative conversation in your mind itself.

It usually happens that; when we feel terribly down by the hovering negative thoughts, we try to reach out to the person we feel safe to discuss our problems with, or we involve someone near us- to pour our heart out. But it is always good to not spill the beans when you are feeling torn by your negative emotions. Just let that bad feeling (s) settle down before you speak to someone, about something. 

How about you switching off everything that you have right now- your mind, phones, internet, and any kind of conversations you think, you wish to have and going out to your terrace, deck, or to your backyard and breathe some fresh air? Remain in that 'zone' until you feel calm and relaxed again. Only then get back to your original place you have had to leave behind.

Do you think this could be a best way to calm that storm inside you?
Do not forget to leave me your thoughts in the comments below. 
What do you do to pop those negative self talk bubbles immediately?

Thursday, January 21, 2016

21 Things That Can Make A Woman Happy Instantly

You know the feeling I am talking about- yes, it's very familiar! Something that makes you feel like; jump out of your bed and dance, or squeal in delight:)
So now you get me!
Are you that "happy woman" who always find reasons to be happy?

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There are as many different definitions of happiness, as the number of women in this world. But the  most basic statement of happiness boils down to "satisfaction with life," that includes- a good fulfilling life, a satisfying well-paid job, an exciting career, few shopping credit cards(of your favorite brands or stores), good bunch of trusted friends, a good social life and a happy loving family. But contrary to popular belief, happiness doesn't come from fame, fortune, bright career, from other people or from materialistic belongings. Happiness can only be found within. The clear version of happiness lies beneath our demands and expectations. We can simply be happy- for no reason, but that needs a strong desire to become a "happy person," without any clich├ęs . 

"A woman is happy when she finds more joy and peace in her every day life; when 'being happy' is her attitude and finding happiness in every moment is her habit!" 

 Despite the fact that happiness depends upon getting what we expect; there can be few simple reasons to being happy from the inside out! Few simple pleasures in life that can make a woman feel happy instantly. 

I want to list those 21 simple reasons that can make any woman happy in just few seconds: 

  1. When she fits into her favorite outfit.
  2.  She enters into a clean, well organized bedroom. 
  3. Someone tells her,"she is looking very beautiful today."
  4. When she finds that "perfect content to read" in a book or in a magazine- at a book store.
  5. When she suddenly receives a call from her friend or from a member of her family to tell her that - "she is doing a wonderful job by pursuing her hobby or interest."
  6. She receives a discount coupon from her favorite brand or stores. 
  7. She goes shopping with her girlfriends.
  8. Looks at her jewelry and accessories on display.
  9. Plays a sport.
  10. Gets unexpected smiles from strangers on her way to work or even to do groceries. 
  11. When she finds other women turning heads or talking about her fashion or looks :)
  12. When she helps someone in need.
  13. Her coffee or tea is made just the way she wanted it to be :)
  14. She looks stunning in pictures.
  15. Wears her new outfit.
  16. Gets a surprise gift or card from her partner, or from her friend (s).
  17. Goes for a pedicure.
  18. Eats chocolate.
  19. Waits for her birthday or any "special day" to celebrate the next day.
  20. Gives a suggestion,  and everyone around her accepts it. 
  21. Gets to flaunt her newly bought jewelry or accessories.
Have you ever felt those "instant" happy moments out of simple things? Do you believe that happiness can be better found in small pleasures of life? Do leave me a comment and share your thoughts.

Sunday, January 10, 2016

Dream. Believe. Work Hard. Achieve. Repeat

"If you can dream it, you can do it"~~Walt Disney

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Dreams are not just our powerful thoughts; but also some crazy, restless urge to do something, or be something. If you dare to dream, also have the courage to "believe" in your dreams! This powerful quote by Walt Disney; truly explains the strong motivation a person can feel in their dreams! 

Dreams are powerful sources of imagination- it gives you the freedom to change your fantasies into realities, and to make things possible that seemed impossible, irrelevant to many! So when we know this; why do we still fear our actions? I am sure we all want the opportunity to pursue our dreams, but very few act towards achieving it; or even giving it a try!

"Dreaming is easier than doing." But doing what you love and what you have always wanted; can be much more simpler and satisfactory than just keeping the dreams to yourself (without any action), I suppose! So why not take a chance and do something amazing with your life on your terms?

We love to dream. Don't we? In fact that's the only best thing we have continued doing since we were kids. But as we started growing into adulthood, our "dreams" merely seemed nothing more than childhood fantasies, that never comes true! But if you flip back through the pages of your life, you will be surprised to know that; many of your dreams have actually come true!

"You closed your eyes holding that sparkle, and made a wish! You wished for better days in future life, wished to earn and spend your "own" money, wished for a job, your own individual closet full of branded clothes, watches, jewelries and what not!" Now do you think, few of your dreams (you wished for) have actually come true? You are already living your wishes, your so-called "hopeful dreams?" 

You are never too old to dream again, or making your dreams come true! So bring that courage out of you and live up to your dreams. As long as we have our dreams- we have that very hope of living our next days (s)- a hope to see ourselves living a better life than today!

We live in a very realistic world where talking about dreams, your passions may seem unrealistic and not so important. People may not take you seriously if you say, "I am going to make my living by following my dreams."  But when we have a sufficiently big reason to understand why something must be done, the task becomes easier! A dream provides inspiration and motivation to the dreamer; for a convincing future! But having a dream is important to carry on that task. 

When we start to believe in the power of our dreams, we can also find ways to make it happen with hard work, consistency and by doing things differently! Convince your mind that ,"it doesn't matter whether your dream is big or small; what matters is how important is it to you, and how far can you go achieving it?"

So do you believe in dreams? Leave me a comment below. Would love to hear how you made it to your dreams?  

Saturday, January 2, 2016

Do What You Love

Happy New Year everyone.

"What you do today can improve all your tomorrows." 
This is how the first day of a brand New Year should be lived I suppose. We definitely try every possible way to spend the 1st of January in a "perfect" way; so that the rest of 364 days are lived the "same way." But many of us also fail in doing so!  And I did not spend it perfectly either! But I have faith and I believe that; "2016 will bring me good days, happy moments, and hopefully good of everything."

I want to start this year with few inspiring powerful quotes and thoughts; that are going to be my daily dose of inspirations to help me achieve my dreams. I hope they inspire you too.

"Do What You Love."

Nothing can be as inspiring as to know that; "what you choose to do is your love." You love to do what you have had been doing, or you choose to do next! And that solves all your problems, because you are definitely going to find a way out to find success.

"Put equal parts of FAITH and COURAGE into each of my day."

Whatever it may take; I am going to do what I love and will continue doing anyways!

This is my year of no goals, no resolutions; just few "healthy" promises to myself: like; 

1. To include more self care habits in my daily routine.

2. To read more of some good non-fiction books and expand my library.
3. To take more care of my mind, body and soul's needs: like getting plenty of sleep, engaging myself in sincere meditation and trying every possible ways to smile and have fun every day.
4.And lastly to write more this year.

So what are your "power promises" to yourself this year? Or if you have certain goals or resolutions for 2016? Do leave me a comment. 

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