Monday, October 31, 2016

Tips To Be Busy and Happy At The Same Time

We are all so busy being busy these days; but does that busyness bring you happiness? Are you happy being busy? "I know what you're thinking right now? Isn't this woman crazy to ask such a silly question:)?" No, I'm serious!  A busy mind can smile too. You can feel a load of satisfaction within yourself, and can stay calm and joyful; even while being busy. All we need is a few frequent sips of satisfaction during the day as well as while catching up your nap at night (this means: few reminders that tell us, "we are satisfied with what we have in life at present.")

I love this quote that says :

We all get report cards in many different ways, but the real excitement of what you're doing is in the doing of it. It's not what you're gonna get in the end--it's not the final curtain--it's really in the doing it, and loving what you're doing."

Ralph Lauren

That's so true! The real fun of living your life depends upon; actually doing what you want to do, and loving doing it. Coming this far through experiences, I've realized that being busy is fun. It's a lot more fun than just doing nothing. At the end of the day you can breathe satisfaction, and pride that you did so many things for yourself today- be it at work, or just inside the house.

We like to claim that each one of us are doing more than the other individual (in family, among friends, in neighborhood, or in office), but the truth is, "we are all busy doing our life. Busy doing the tasks/actions that helps in shaping us as a human being, and as a social being. We are all the same- even though we act differently, or try to do things differently. But everything we do boils down to one purpose- giving our best efforts to live a life that we have been offered.

Few of my friends and readers asked me to do a post or posts about work-life balance. How to stay happy when we have a hell of workload? I was little hesitant to write on this because I had to ponder deeply into the life of a working mom to find the ways she try hard to balance her work and life. I'm not a working mom; but a full-time happy mom; because I like working hard day and night for my kids. I fail, I frown sometimes, and I skip or neglect few of my mommy tasks while juggling between my passion and family commitments. I'm even left unsatisfied feeling miserable and guilty for not doing everything I'm supposed to do. But I feel happy to have not bargained my self  for my 'perfect self'; and rather make mistakes to create a happening and happy life.

So why do we work so much? For whom? Are we being realistic when we decide to take upon so many tasks at hand? Yes, exactly these are the kind of questions you must ask yourself when you feel overdoing!

Remember these five essential questions that you must ask yourself to help maintain your sanity and a happy balanced life:

1. What are you busy for?

2. Whom are you busy for?
3. Is your busyness helping you in your overall growth?
4. What's your top priority- mindfulness & a stress free life, or in being a perfectionist?
5. Have you been getting time for your self-care rituals?

I want you to engage your mind thinking answers to these questions for yourself; and I will have it all explained for you in my next post. So stay with me and please feel free to share your views and the answers that you would like to have for these questions in the comment section below. I love to hear from you.

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

How to Make Your Home a Happier Place to Live in

Doesn't matter if we spend more time outside; we always want to come back to a happier home- that reflects happiness, togetherness, and lots of positive energy. Your abode should reflect you- the person you are; and the person you wish your kids to become one day.

We try to fill our homes with everything we like. But how about filling your 'favorite place of all' with the things that can inspire you, motivate you, can help you feel fearless and secured when unavoidable fears and worries about the uncertain future makes you cringe! How about creating a place (or places within the house) that can instantly make you feel calm and more of life? 

"Your environment reflects your life." So the inside set up must be fascinating, should be wonderful- bright, peaceful, and clutter free.

Really doesn't matter if you live in a big or a small house. A house to be a happier place to live in requires more of life, inspirations to keep you motivated, the peace and calmness that you can feel in your spines. 

A place where there is more laughter, more understanding, forgiving quality, and lots and lots of love and respect for each of the members- such place makes a GREAT Happy Home!

I remember my teenage days. Every time something went wrong; or I was upset and worried about something, I would find myself a seat near the window and would continue looking outside for hours together- without speaking anything to anybody. I never understood (nor my parents and family) the reasons behind doing something silly like this! But as of when I started creating a positive life; I got my answers. "I was trying to find some motivation to fight back life's biggest problems. It was my way of gathering my (mental) strengths back to face the hurdles." 

Sometimes we just want to sit quietly and run through our day, our life, and our problems. I was exactly doing the same. 

In fact, there are many small changes that you can do today to make your home a happier place to come back at the end of the day. These additions to your house won't just lift you mood; but can improve your efficiency too!

1. Have one sound-proof quiet room in the house.

I find it easy to switch from a worst person to a better person in a quiet and calm room in my house. I get better when I get the chance to meditate, relax, read, explore, and create something exciting and new everyday. Make sure you have more than one such restful noise-proof ares in your abode.

2. Have more colors all around your house. 

Not necessarily colored walls; but you can add colors to your interior decoration in many different ways. Try these: pillows, curtains, coffee tables, large paintings or artworks, bright photograph frames, flowers and vases, decorative pieces that sparkle colors, even bright/bold color furnishings, etc in bolder shades. The temperature of colors can guide your emotions.

3. Include more Books and create a library if you can.

4. Have one "My Passion" room.

Hang your favorite work. Display your achievements like; trophies, certificates, pictures, or samples that you have created. Each day spend some time visiting this room in your house and feel good about your talents and creations. I feel such corners or rooms have powerful impact on your whole self, because they show who you are as a person, or what you are trying to achieve, and how far you have come in life making those dreams a reality.

5. Have 'happy memory' frames hanging all around your walls.

Such a feel good factor! Your happy days that are your favorite memories now- have them all around your house. Feel them, and remember them each and every moment. Try to live those days again and again. Create them now again! 

6. Have more green and white things around.

Having more house plants sparks a kind of joy within me. Every morning after I wake up and look at them, they kind of motivate me to start my day on a good positive note. I feel full of life, and the eagerness to do something, or to create something exciting. So is with the white color. White vases, potteries, pillows, bed sheets create a sense of calmness within us. Sometimes a white-theme decoration looks more attractive than bold colors. If nothing try adding a vase of white orchids and see the difference.

7. Have things that can attract your eyes and nose.

To say, bring yourself some good quality scented air wicks, candles, hand soaps, hand lotions and keep them in the common ares of the room; where you can access the freshness and enchanting flavors of life.

Have some wise words, inspiring quotes, wall decals, and stickers to keep you motivated towards life , duties, responsibilities, and dreams all-day-long. Hang some house rules' reminders like; "practice more patience, stay calm, take it easy, it's just a bad day and tomorrow is another new day, love more shout less, laugh more and frown less, be respectful towards each family members, eat together, watch something funny each day, try on something new everyday, etc. "

8. Focus on cleaning the "noisy areas" very often.

I find the kitchen area to be the most cluttered place in the house. I try to clean it often, and make it look attractive by using some decorative things like; house plants (both real and artificial), keeping the area dry and clean and utensils-free.

Similarly if you find any area of your house to be noisy and cluttered; then try keeping it clutter-free. Focus on the solutions you can try doing to make it look more clean, free and attractive.

Start with these easy steps and transform your home into a relaxing retreat.

What would you like to add to this list. I would love to hear from you. So please do leave me your comments. I love reading them. And if you liked the post also please do share.


Saturday, October 8, 2016

How To Find Peace and Stay Positive When People Hurt You

"We share pieces of ourselves with people everyday."
Sometimes our action or behavior is a conscious outlet of us, while all other times they're our spontaneous (depending on the situation) response (s) to the events or behavior. Don't lead your days depending upon people's perception. Nobody but only you can decide if you are good or bad; because the way we present ourselves to people (depending upon the situation) accordingly they form a opinion about us. But they are not always correct! Sometimes or I must say most of the times when others judge us, it also shows some part of them- their attitude, their habits, their thinking, and the way they see things- and not how exactly we are!  

A tiny trigger of  negative reaction or comment can make us unhappy.  But if we base our life on those negative opinions, we can never feel good about ourselves . Today take time to acknowledge all the best parts of you, and your life. Dust off every single thing that makes you feel negative about yourself.

I used to do exactly the same thing- believe what people said to me. But ever since I practiced listening to my inner voice, and decided not to care who hurts me, I felt the freedom! I felt being free from everything that expects me to be 'nice' all-the-time.

If your number one goal is to make sure that everyone likes and approves of you, then you risk sacrificing your uniqueness, and, therefore, your excellence.” ~Unknown

I remember some friends telling me, "you write positive articles but you don't seem to be a positive person by the way you talk." They said this to me just because I did not want to stay connected with them anymore! I was releasing myself from all kinds of their 'expectations'. Their words did hurt me. I felt sad. I was angry, as  I had to seriously ponder over my attitude. But something I knew very well- "I was not hundred percent wrong. And ever since I had decided to be more positive as a person; I had promised to stop pleasing, and or giving any kind of explanations. " So why did they accuse me? Why did they not accept their part of mistakes? 

Negative judgment and criticisms may paralyze our effort of staying positive and fearless. Don't let any kind of negativity destroy your built-in peace.

Learning to be fluid with myself has helped me to go in life with a certain ease. Life may force the chance of plan on you, but learning to 'dance in the rain' will help us get through our tough times. I try and find the good every day. 

There are too many moments in life that deserve a good laugh. 

I want to share some of the tips and ideas that can help you stay positive and happy, even when people hurt you, or accuse you of being not-perfect.

  1. Think about what they said. Is it true? Don't believe everything what you hear. If you believe, take it in as a chance to change yourself for the good.
  2. Free yourself from the fear of judgment.
  3. Use this powerful tool, and learn to say 'no.'
  4. Often rely on your inner critic than external voices.
  5. Get rid of everything negative in your life. Be more focused on your 'present' journey of change, and create a better future for yourself and family.
  6. Share positive feelings with others; but don't try to change anyone. Change yourself. Change your life. Move on from everything that tries to stop you from being you.
  7. Be your authentic self in every possible way.
  8. Focus only on the good.
  9. Move away from all negatively-driven competitions. They only create disturbances and more negative energy within you. Focus on improving everyday, and create opportunities to showcase your talents. "Not all who win always are champions. Many things also depend upon the kind of opportunities they get." So, be your own competition.
  10. Always count your blessings. Feel good about your own life rather than comparing with others. You have so many things to feel good about your own life.

Any kind of criticism doesn't  affect us until we start reacting to it. We should never allow ourselves to be crushed under the negativity around us.  

I hope you find your purpose, and the motivation to stay positive and kind to your yourself; after reading this post. Don't forget to leave me your thoughts on what will you do to not feel bad about any kind of negative remarks or comments that people try to use on you?

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