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How To Find Peace and Stay Positive When People Hurt You

"We share pieces of ourselves with people everyday."
Sometimes our action or behavior is a conscious outlet of us, while all other times they're our spontaneous (depending on the situation) response (s) to the events or behavior. Don't lead your days depending upon people's perception. Nobody but only you can decide if you are good or bad; because the way we present ourselves to people (depending upon the situation) accordingly they form a opinion about us. But they are not always correct! Sometimes or I must say most of the times when others judge us, it also shows some part of them- their attitude, their habits, their thinking, and the way they see things- and not how exactly we are!  

A tiny trigger of  negative reaction or comment can make us unhappy.  But if we base our life on those negative opinions, we can never feel good about ourselves . Today take time to acknowledge all the best parts of you, and your life. Dust off every single thing that makes you feel negative about yourself.

I used to do exactly the same thing- believe what people said to me. But ever since I practiced listening to my inner voice, and decided not to care who hurts me, I felt the freedom! I felt being free from everything that expects me to be 'nice' all-the-time.


If your number one goal is to make sure that everyone likes and approves of you, then you risk sacrificing your uniqueness, and, therefore, your excellence.” ~Unknown

I remember some friends telling me, "you write positive articles but you don't seem to be a positive person by the way you talk." They said this to me just because I did not want to stay connected with them anymore! I was releasing myself from all kinds of their 'expectations'. Their words did hurt me. I felt sad. I was angry, as  I had to seriously ponder over my attitude. But something I knew very well- "I was not hundred percent wrong. And ever since I had decided to be more positive as a person; I had promised to stop pleasing, and or giving any kind of explanations. " So why did they accuse me? Why did they not accept their part of mistakes? 





Negative judgment and criticisms may paralyze our effort of staying positive and fearless. Don't let any kind of negativity destroy your built-in peace.

Learning to be fluid with myself has helped me to go in life with a certain ease. Life may force the chance of plan on you, but learning to 'dance in the rain' will help us get through our tough times. I try and find the good every day. 




There are too many moments in life that deserve a good laugh. 

I want to share some of the tips and ideas that can help you stay positive and happy, even when people hurt you, or accuse you of being not-perfect.




  1. Think about what they said. Is it true? Don't believe everything what you hear. If you believe, take it in as a chance to change yourself for the good.
  2. Free yourself from the fear of judgment.
  3. Use this powerful tool, and learn to say 'no.'
  4. Often rely on your inner critic than external voices.
  5. Get rid of everything negative in your life. Be more focused on your 'present' journey of change, and create a better future for yourself and family.
  6. Share positive feelings with others; but don't try to change anyone. Change yourself. Change your life. Move on from everything that tries to stop you from being you.
  7. Be your authentic self in every possible way.
  8. Focus only on the good.
  9. Move away from all negatively-driven competitions. They only create disturbances and more negative energy within you. Focus on improving everyday, and create opportunities to showcase your talents. "Not all who win always are champions. Many things also depend upon the kind of opportunities they get." So, be your own competition.
  10. Always count your blessings. Feel good about your own life rather than comparing with others. You have so many things to feel good about your own life.


Any kind of criticism doesn't  affect us until we start reacting to it. We should never allow ourselves to be crushed under the negativity around us.  


I hope you find your purpose, and the motivation to stay positive and kind to your yourself; after reading this post. Don't forget to leave me your thoughts on what will you do to not feel bad about any kind of negative remarks or comments that people try to use on you?






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  1. This is a lovely post Epsita. I actually needed such advice and your post helps. It is always hard to ignore the negative things that people say to us. But I have realized that even your most loved ones will criticise you when you are down and if you take it to heart, you will remain down.

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