Wednesday, November 30, 2016

5 Steps To Design The Life You Want

Lately I have been busy reading a book, "Design The Life You Love" that totally touched my soul. While I was hunting for some interesting self-help and personal development books in the library, I stumbled upon this book. The title of the book looked so very attractive and interesting that I had to bring it home with me. I have just read few pages, and I'm already loving the ideas written by author Ayse Birsel that explains step-by step process of designing your life that you love.



Today's post is inspired by the book.

I really paused for a moment to think answers to these questions like; "how can I design the life I want? Am I doing everything that can lead me to the life I always wanted to live? I know we all have desires to live a large-size life- where we have everything, and just 'perfect.' But do you think we can have it all? And will that make us a happier person as a whole? If you're with me, "I would say 'no'." There's no such thing that's called a 'perfect life.'  Even if we get everything, we'll still have complains and comparisons. The day we learn to enjoy every small bit of life in happiness and inner joy (definitely), leaving behind all sort of loathed arguments about your inefficiently functioning life- we will begin to live the life we wanted.

Ever since I began this journey of change, I included two major components that I thought was important for constructing a good life: optimism and creativity. I decided that I will try to have more positive outlook towards my life, my problems, people in my life, and towards opportunities; that I never got or I had to miss many due to circumstances. And I took complete ownership of my life- good or bad! And creativity is my strength. I have always wanted to make my passion my profession. I started late, but I will not stop until I do it. I took my journey as; "creating something I love, and care for, making it happen that seemed impossible before!"

We all aspire to become famous, rich, successful, and wealthy. And everything begins by," seeing that it can be possible." When you believe in yourself, and believe in doing things that you want to do- that brings you maximum joy; you get everything in life.

I found these five steps helpful, to design the life I wanted. And I hope you find them useful too.
  1. Optimism.
  2. Don't waste time blaming and complaining.
  3. Pursue your purpose with passion and enthusiasm.
  4. Break your IDEAS into: how will you attract people, find resources, and create opportunities for yourself to make your idea go live.
  5. Time, money, and effort decides your success. See if you can start without any one of these?

I do little different things each day: productive as well as unproductive. I am not earning money to run the house; but I'm doing everything else that's required for a balanced purposeful life like; creating a beautiful peaceful living, a happy home, and helping myself and family to make the desired dreams come true. I know I'm far far away from where I want to be; but nobody said it can't be done! I completely believe in my dreams, and want to work really hard to make it happen.

"It's never too late to be what you might have been."
~George Eliot
Yes! remember these wise words every time you get distracted from your purpose and dreams. Do leave me your thoughts about this post in the comments below.


Monday, November 28, 2016

How To "Style" Your Mind Positive

I don't know how but styling my own way has always got me some good positive feelings. Creating signature personal style and following fashion (the way I like) has always brought me fresh positive feelings- about myself, my life, and everything in between. I don't even remember how it all started; and I became so aware of creating my style (s), and looking fashionable all the time!



"Fashion isn't always about showing; rather more about feeling good from inside." We are all different, and we can never fit into somebody else's body. All we need is to create styles for our own body. That's when we can feel "really" good about our own self-image. And such good feelings make your life, your thinking process more positive. We start accepting our flaws, and do everything we can, to bring that change in our look and feel.


I've always been a huge fan of fashion; and personal styles. There's a lot out there to learn from and to get all kinds of inspirations from every single person. I like pulling out best pairs of clothes for myself, my kids, and sometimes even for my husband. I like to wear styles, and look my best. I have been following thousands of fashionistas, bloggers, artists, celebrities, friends, and every single person whose style inspires me. I like following them and adopting few tips from their style statements; but I also like to transform all those into 'my way of styling.' I love to experiment with patterns and colors, and sometimes two different genre of styles together. And I can guarantee you that; doing all this gives me immense positive feelings- a sense of acceptance and peace within myself.

There are several paths to self-love. And there's no better way to transform your whole self than by adopting fashion, new styles as well as considering your personal style.

When we see certain possibilities in life, that's when we find joy in creating, and creating more. We all like to depend upon certain purposes to move ahead in life- doesn't matter if creating a positive body image is the purpose! But something that can pull this life forward, that can help us belong in the crowd, and that can push us to go for our dreams. All we need is that 'kick' in our life to make it happen. And self-love is that one big reason for living a positive life.

When people talk about fashion, they share love. They share the warmth of good feeling from inside, and the confidence that's more than enough to spark that positive feeling within us. When you are too busy 'creating' something for yourself, you will not have enough time to see what others are creating. Rather you will go into the mode where you will feel like inspiring others by sharing your work, your story, and your fashion. And that's what exactly we bloggers or writers do. Don't we?

So these are the reasons how a mind can be turned into the positive mode through fashion.

1. Dressing in nicer clothes make you feel better.

We often choose clothes according to our emotions. Like: a happy mood will always pick the best or favorite clothes from the closet whilst a sad and frustrated mind will pick anything, or the worst choice of dresses. So when you can create that eagerness to look your best - you will always pick the best suitable styles for yourselves. This whole thing impacts our day, work, emotions, and productivity.



2. People who love to style are more positive and interactive in life.

Yes! You may not agree with me; but that's so true. I have seen people who like to style and look good all the time; are always on a hunt for something beautiful and attractive. Such people are usually happy and happening; because they always have a job to do- collect and share their 'best' dresses, bags, shoes, or jewelry. They always have something to talk about, and something to feel good about- they like to feel good about themselves!

3. The power of making a choice.

You are in total charge of your choices- what and how you like to dress. You have the power and the freedom to create something new and better for yourself- that in a way also influences positive energy in the society. You become the inspiration to others-  to take charge of their likes and dislikes too, to control their life, their way! You're the designer of your uniqueness. And doing so, definitely makes you confident and unique.

4. Self-care broadcasts self-love and respect.

When you put effort in your appearance, you make is possible to care, how you want to present yourself to the world. You create that power within yourself; by taking care of your physical and mental health requirements. Caring about how you present your physical beauty to the world also keeps you engaged to your-self, to your body.

Self-love is the first step towards a better positive life. When you very well understand your needs, you tend to prepare yourself to accept others with flaws too! You create a happy atmosphere in the family.  You become a loving person. You smile often. You stay busy. You become more productive, and more purposeful.

By bringing a positive change in your life, you also bring a change in other people's lives- who are directly or indirectly connected to you. You create a positive atmosphere in the society. You influence dreams, careers, passions, and possibilities.

There are many such 'passions' I have inculcated in my life- that has helped me to become more and more positive each coming day- and fashion/style is one of them. Stay with me to know more ways how you can create a POSITIVE LIFE.

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xoxo





Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Continue: Tips To Be Busy and Happy At The Same Time

Every time I experience too much of negativity around me; I don't forget to thank myself! I thank because I have chosen to keep myself busy doing something good for myself and for my family. I'm a kind of a woman who likes doing too many things. As long as I don't over exhaust myself, I am a happy busy mom.

We are almost half way through November, and I'm doing my first post of the month. I never wanted to take this long for doing my second and the last part of the post; but as I had mentioned in my previous post, "I have been very busy lately. Busy doing everything I must, I should, and I can."

Life is all about balancing your tasks and happiness. Now it's up to you; how you're going to label them: as happy tasks and unhappy tasks. Write down your day's to-do list, by separating your tasks under two categories. See how many activities you are doing actually makes you happy!


"I'm busy may seem like a overstatement at times." But it is not an overreaction-rather a natural response, when you know exactly what you are busy for! But also sometimes get busy doing nothing. When you want to disconnect from everything; like willing to take a break from real life for a bit; so that you can recharge and refresh yourself, is the best way to "be busy" doing nothing.

Don't let your busyness compromise your happiness. When you're aware of your journey- whether forced, or with interest; being busy in life can be acceptable. Sometimes it is worth it, if you can make some minor changes to your routine.


If you have read my last post, you will remember that I shared four essential questions that can make you think about- how you can be happy while being busy?

Remember these five essential questions you must ask yourself every time you feel overwhelmed or feel like your "busyness" isn't doing any good for you, for your growth, or for your life.

1. What are you busy for

Are you busy creating your career, or shaping your family? Do you really need to keep yourself busy doing what you are doing right now? These are the kinds of questions that can help you find the reasons- whether you can be happy while being busy; or you must eliminate those things from your work-life or busy-life that is not making you happy! 

Many people have their own ways of achieving everything they need to do, while still having time for everything they want to do in life. Such people are our great inspirations, real heroes.

 We are busy doing doing too many things- sometimes for own self, and most of the times for others.  But what makes you feel alive? Are you an inspiration for someone who is struggling to do everything? So remember what you are doing, is for a reason. Reason, that is creating a better future for yourself.


2. Whom are you busy for?

For yourself or for your family? So instead of feeling like you are stuck in a rut, feel good that you are busy doing something. whether working for family or for yourself, having plenty of 'me time' is quiet very essential. 

Doesn't matter how your day has gone, keeping a check on your emotions, health, and mind  will help you stay focused, and positive all-day-long. Making time for yourself, whilst meeting you basic needs can help you bring more satisfaction and happiness, even while you are working hard day and night!

3. Is your busyness helping you in your overall growth?

We work hard to earn money, to see ourselves successful, to be capable of fulfilling our demands, and to make our dream come true. Sometimes we even work harder to provide good care to our kids, to keep the family happy and healthy by being there 24/7 for them, and to create a clean, organized, healthy, and a happy home. 

So whether you are a working parent, or a stay-at-home parent- you will always feel the load of work on your shoulders; but those tasks should ensure a secured future for yourself. We can never stay happy by remaining there where we were yesterday. We all look forward to our personal growth. To have a better future, and a good life. We must see our life changing in some better ways.

We all want more out of life. After all that's why we are working so hard, right? So empower yourself while being busy- so that you can meet your needs.

4. What's your top priority- mindfulness & a stress free life, or in being a perfectionist?

More often than not, perfectionism dominates our life, our way of being us. We get easily caught up in the thought that, "if we do everything  and perfectly, we will be better than the others, or we will be the best." But that doesn't happen to everybody!

Do you remember your boss telling you that, "I know you have worked hard for this project, and you also extended your working hours to do it perfectly and in time; but from next time onward try working smarter and learn the tricks to delegate your work and get it done.Don't over-stress yourself." Do I sound familiar?

Yes, we overdo things sometimes in a quest to be called a 'perfect' example; but doing so we also exhaust ourselves, we neglect family moments, and end up feeling restless and tired. I have always felt that finding peace in life is my top priority. A balanced happy life needs many sacrifices, but do not compromise on being peaceful and living mindfully everyday. When we have the right set of mind and emotions in control and well-balanced, we can do hundreds of things even without feeling exhausted or hateful. Don't take more than you can handle.

5. Have you been getting time for your self-care rituals?

No matter what you day everyday, or how much you do- just make time for yourself. Listen to your basic needs, and groom yourself. We are all hungry for that warm care and love. But we can't always wait for someone to tell us, "stop being busy, and take plenty of rest now!" We must understand our mind and body needs. Make time for everything you are doing at present, but take frequent breaks, go on a vacation, do some of mind calming exercises or activities, groom yourself, look attractive and beautiful, and most importantly- feel good about yourself- just that way you are. When we feel satisfied with ourselves, with our own life, we can feel happy for others too! Get plenty of sleep and plan for more personal time with yourself.

Be more available in your life. Living a balanced and happy life while being busy is not that impossible. A little adjustment and some tweaks in your demanding routine life can bring you those happy moments.

I hope you find some solutions to your hectic work-life balance by reading this post. I hope through this post, I can motivate you enough to stay happy and cheerful while being really busy; and doing hundreds of tasks at hand. Do leave me thoughts in the comments.


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