Friday, December 1, 2017

Living For Your Passion and Never Giving Up

Hello! December. Welcome to our life. And help us end this year with great spirit. It is hard to believe that 2017 is going to end in few more days! This year has been a wonderful year to me- in terms of success, learning, inspiring and touching  some lives, and definitely improving myself.

"I want to start today's post with the wish that- may the year 2018 bring more success and happiness to all our lives. May there be more kindness, peace, and understanding all around us. May we succeed in achieving our dream, and in completing our journey of "self-discovery!"

"Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."- Winston Churchill

There's a reason I chose to write on this topic again today- 'passion.'
If you have been reading my blog; you will know that I always mention about passion and purpose in my posts. I believe anybody's life can be interesting and/or inspiring (to love and live) by these two driving forces- to live the "best" version of this life. And these wonderful books taught me exactly the same thing about 'living for your passion and never giving up!'

In all these years while pursuing my passion, I have learnt that, "one of the best ways to stay "hungry" and focused in your life is by focusing on your purpose; by creating a vision and working towards it till you reach your finish line. I was just living- aimlessly- until one day I discovered my passion of writing and photography- accidentally!" 

I embarked on this journey of writing and blogging by accident, or I was born with these qualities; I don't know? But I know this for sure that these skills are gifted to me, and I feel a sense of purpose as I work to develop these qualities. I'm walking that vision with a mission to become an inspiration to many, some day! 

I discovered few things about having a passion(s) in your life. Some are through my personal experience, some are suggestions from these wonderful books, and some are from the blogs and stories I read on social media ! I hope you find them helpful.

  • If you're a student, first focus on your studies and alongside spend time honing your passion. If you happen to be in the middle of your career hunt- then first of all find a job for yourself. Be independent, and capable of earning for your expenses- then focus on your passion. If you want to turn your passion into your profession- work hard, give more efforts to your skills, and get on top of it - do it any ways! Create your own opportunities to reach out to the crowd outside your comfort zone and; be heard and be seen.
  • Got lots of passions but no idea which one to focus on? Then try to pick the one that's your most favorite, and/or the one you are best at! Whenever I face this challenge, I try to categorize them into hobby's, interests, and a serious passion- that I would like to take it forward and make it my career
  • Enjoy your passion when you decide to work towards it. Be serious about it and stop focusing on status and approvals.

"If your number one goal is to make sure that everyone likes and approves of you, then you risk sacrificing your uniqueness, and, therefore, your excellence." - Unknown

While you decide to believe in your skills, and work towards creating something amazing out of it; you don't have to look outside of yourself! We only need to appreciate the energy that we get from what we do, and stop looking outside of ourselves for seeking approval of our uniqueness and worth.

  • "Passion is for the things that make you LIVE"- Read it on a blog.

  • Passion is something that keeps your HOPE alive even on your tough days.
  • Be unique in your approach. Choose your own path than following what others did, or made it to the top. "There's plenty of room for everyone; you just have to find your own unique way to get there. We're all unique people with unique skills, interests, and hopes, so it makes perfect sense that our paths would be unique, too. Don't be discouraged if your path is windy and full of roadblocks while your peers seem to be gliding along smoothly. As long as you keep working to move forward, you'll get to where you need to be, no matter what. You need to slow down, take a step back and keep to your own path." - Excerpt from book 'The Sweet Life.'
  • Focus on your progress, not perfection. Keep moving forward and figure out the details later- The Sweet Life.
  • Don't be afraid of failure. 
 I hope you don't give up on your journey or your "mission"!
Fail, make mistakes; but don't stop. 
Do leave me your thoughts in the comment section. And before you leave, let me tell you that I have received two more wonderful books for doing a review post. So come back soon!

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

How To Go Easy On Yourself While Creating Joy

Life often takes u-turn and dumps you back there- from where you had started to embark on a new journey for yourself- to find peace, joy, and pure happiness; where you never wanted to stay and wished not to come back there again! So what do you do in that situation? Start all over? This happens countless number of times. Isn't it?

Just when we feel everything has finally fallen in place, things start to fall apart. And we get busy putting the (scattered) puzzle pieces together, and this goes on and on. But this is how life is- uncertain, unpredictable, and harsh most of the times- but still beautiful.

Yet despite my best efforts, I find negative situation interfering frequently in my life, but I try to be kind to myself. You can be your best self when you know how to empathize with your self -being. There are certain things that's completely beyond our control; so just be easy with yourself. 
You're super fantastic.
Just Be You!

Our heart and mind can only take "little" stress a day. In order to deal with all kinds of emotionally debilitating struggle, be it marriage, parenting, job, career decisions, weight loss, health issues, or any other kind of trials of everyday living, we must first completely give up self-criticism, and replace them with the wings of self-encouragement.

Reach out and show more care and sympathy to yourself when it seems really hard to accept that, "life is a beautiful journey." Certain unexpected unpleasant interruptions (in life) will try to challenge our courage to stay calm and hopeful during those bad days; but you don't give up! Try to stay calm and reflect upon yourself. Stop judging and evaluating life as "good" or "bad" and simply accept things that come your way.

Life seems fair to them who can believe that there's more good than bad in each of our lives. 

Yes, there's a way to work through any conflicts that occur in your life- through mindful living every single day. Pay attention to what is working in life and what is not? What you can do to make that not- a yes-working journey? Identify the important "factors" that can make your life a wholesome satisfying awesome journey. Be more present by meditating. Be more focused by praying hard. Be more happy by counting your blessings. Be more fulfilling by finding your purpose to strive and grow. Be More and Do More- that should be our goal in life to create pure joy and inner peace.

Start today! And create a better version of yourself than you were yesterday.
Sometimes our absolute worst time of our life can get us to the "best" of what we have been waiting for! Nurture your mind or your creative spirit by feeding it right; by seeing the best things that life has to offer you; and by caring for how you want to see yourself in another year or two.

I have completely stopped blaming myself, my life, or my choices especially during the days when things get really ugly or unpleasant. I want to love everything about my life -good or bad.

Do you have more things to add on how can we be self-compassionate, and be more kind to ourselves in the worst days of our life? Then please leave me your suggestions in the comments below.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Decor Inspiration & Ideas-1

With the arrival of winter, I have started spending more time inside the house than being outdoor. I have always been really curious about finding decorations to add to all the rooms; not just to decorate, but also to keep myself motivated and happy all throughout the winter. So in today's post I will share some home/office/work space inspirations you can add to your rooms or "working spaces." How to create some inspiration in every corner of your house- that can speak to you, and that can fill your days and nights with joy and motivation?

Sometimes we don't need expensive items to decorate our house, or make it a 'happy place' to live in. I think decorations that are motivating, inspiring, or colorful can make beautiful decors'.  I also believe if we can hang more positive affirmations; and word reminders that can show the positive beautiful-side-of-life; are more precious than having expensive things.

Decide upon your "joy diet" you would like to include- whether you want to feel restful, cheerful, calm, creative, or chic. Design your room/space for bringing back your focus- that matters to you. We have often seen that what we see is how we feel! So include colors, inspiring words, and lots of greenery to your spaces.

Quite often our days are led by our thoughts. So bring in some inspiration that can provoke your thought process to do something productive and something really creative (if you're a creative person). "I remember how I like picking up my camera whenever my days feel gloomy and not-exciting. I am in a process where I am training my mind to see possibilities- in the dark hours of my every day life- when fear, anger, frustration, or guilt tries to keep me occupied. I am practicing to see the best in those hours- until I find back my happiness and smile."

                                   My Working Space ~My Desk

I have been willing to do more posts this month, as there's not much time left before I say goodbye to this year. I want to write more, and read more this year. So hopefully I will keep up with my words, and you will be able to see more posts this November. So please stay with me!

So what are your favorite decoration items in your house? How do you like to decorate your "work space"? Share your ideas with me in the comments below.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

Reasons Why Failing Makes You More Confident

"I’ve seen that failing has got me new wings of confidence and a great deal of learning, I’ll never get any other way. So I don’t fear failing anymore. " 

The fears of failure sabotage our confidence levels, and we start moving away from our goals. But what if I tell you that; “failing no way makes you a failure, but definitely a confident person!" This came from my experience. I was once nowhere, and by failing again and again in too many phases of my life; I accepted that- "I'm no good." More often than not it still tries to pop its head up to remind me- how many times I have failed in everything in my past? Failure is a very tough word; mighty enough to smack your confidence, and to bring down your faith on yourself. 

But don't stop just because you failed to do something once! Keep trying. Keep dreaming.

But you must be still wondering; why did I even say that, "failing makes you more confident?"
Yes, I'm coming to that!
Read on to know why?
First of all failing in something doesn’t tell you that you are not good at it, or you’ll never succeed? Failing is not a sign of weakness!
A very well-known actor and a comedian, Bill Cosby once said in his statement, “the desire to succeed must be greater than the fear of failure.”
But one of my favorite quotes is also the one said by Albert Einstein, “if you have never failed, you’ve never tried anything new.”
I believe our success completely depends upon realizing what we want to do, and why? If we are clear about the answers to these two vital questions, we will embrace failure without any fear.

When we are in our twenties, it can be hard to understand why are we failing? But fast forwarding my life in my thirties I understood that, “sometimes it’s good not to get everything that you ask for!” God had some beautiful plans for me, and (I know) I took this long to understand! If you don’t take a chance, don’t take a leap to get yourself out of your comfort zone and try different things; you’ll never know what you are good at?

When I failed in many attempts I decided, I will work hard. And I took a step back to understand where I was lacking? And how I can improve? I’m still working on my efforts to do much better, improve each passing day- I still fail, but I don’t give up!

Ever since I met my new-self; I decided that I must keep moving forward and release all my regrets and doubts, and must leave them behind me. I understood that there’s no use dwelling on them- I must explore every opportunity that is coming my way, and must try to shape my future. I can never go back and change my past, but I can definitely write my future; and I’m hundred percent confident about it.

  •    Even if you fail again and again- just don’t stop.
     Not trying at all is easier than failing. Isn’t it? But instead of living in guilt, throughout your life that you did not try doing something just because you did not want to fail- it is better to try and fail. And even if you fail, don’t let that stop you from trying! In the process of trying to achieve our goals, we will meet innumerable victories or defeats; but if we can overcome these hurdles to reach our “destination,” we’ll surely achieve success someday.   

         Don’t attach failure to your identity.

     Don’t think “failing” again and again makes you a failure person. Don’t attach your identity to being a failure in life! Just because you haven’t been successful yet, doesn’t mean you will never achieve success. Don’t personalize failure.

                 Failure drives us to change.

   Make peace with failure by accepting it. Readjust your focus and try to revisit your approach. Take ideas from the lessons and work hard to try it in a different way this time.
  I believe success must come with lots of learning and experience. Therefore it’s good if we don’t succeed in our first few attempts. The more we try, the more we become fearless and confident.

             Stop seeking others’ approval.

       Often our fear of failure is deeply connected to our fear of being judged and criticized. We worry more about what people will think about us, what will they say if we fail? I used to be like that! But if you give more power to others’ opinions and approvals, you will ultimately lose confidence in your ability to succeed. We will never be able to see how efficient and capable we are in achieving success in life! All we need to do is to drift away from such people and circumstances. Work in silent. Believe in yourself. And make it happen.


      Come, let’s break this stigma together that, “a failure in the past is always a failure!” I will try every possible way to make my dream happen, to be successful one day, and to be equally respected by them- who said, “I cannot achieve my dreams, my goals!

Monday, October 9, 2017

Tips To Look Your Best In Wide-Leg Pants

Today I'm going to share few tips on how to style wide-leg pants or palazzos'. Some of these types are also known as flare pants, which were otherwise called as bell-bottoms. These pants are a go-to-style for almost every season.

"Wide-leg pants are my most favorite wears for every day style."
 I'm no more slender to don this style with anything; but definitely my long legs help me in styling this piece of fashion, even today-with short tops, long tops, with button-down, or with a over-sized top.

The Fashion Tag Blog

After reading too many styling tips and fashion tricks on, "how to style a wide-leg pant," I came to a conclusion that these pants can be a style statement for most of the body shapes, and for any height.

Classic and simple trend of styling these wide pants may have gone into hibernation; as we started falling for skinny jeans and slim pixie pants. But, all style icons and models have begun creating 'special' space in their wardrobe for this versatile piece of clothing.
I see no strict rules to follow when you choose to wear a wide leg trouser. Whether high-waisted or slung-slow, whether you opt to wear these pants to office or to a casual evening party, they can turn heads! However, there's a lot to keep in mind when you decide to give these pants a try- for the first time. 
Read further to know the tips for wearing wide legged pants, and how to style them with different tops, accessories, and shoes.

1. Balance Proportions

The trouser being sloppy and too baggy, needs to be worn with a "perfect" top. Try to tuck in your top, or the blouse. For creating more refined look, wear a belt or a cardigan. It is important to balance the proportions of this oversize trouser when reaching for any designs to pair with it.

2. Create a Monochromatic Look

I love this idea of creating a beautiful silhouette by wearing the same colors; especially when it's all black or all-white :)

Whatever outfit you choose to wear, a monochromatic look always looks elegant and stylish. Try this look!

3. Go for Prints or Bright Colors

Do not feel nervous bout trying the printed trousers. When paired with a printed silk or satin blouse ; the outcome looks fabulous. You can also turn heads by wearing a color blocked trouser and a top. Explore color blocking outfits- especially when you are going for wide legged palazzo or trousers. Balance the vibe with bold colors, to look more fashionable and unique in style.

4. Opt for Over sized Tops

Styling voluminous tops with wide-leg pants may sound scary, but I love tucking-in my tops. Therefore, sometimes donning this style is my favorite way to pull the look together-whether with a wide leg trouser, or with a jeans.

5. Create new silhouette with fur vests, long jackets, classic wool coats, trench coats, or cardigans.

Make your style extraordinary by wearing a fur vest over the trouser, or a long coat. I love the winter look with wide leg trousers worn with an outwear and the ankle boot.

And most importantly, don't forget to accessorize. Add some personality to your wide legged trouser by adding statement necklaces and eye-catching shoes. "I believe, "a beautiful necklace and trendy, stylish shoes can instantly amp up your total outfit.

These are just few of the chic ways (I feel ) we can style wide leg pants- whether formal or casual. And I believe we must own at least one of these pants to create different signature styles. If you have more style ideas on how to look fashionable in a wide leg trouser, please do share with us here in the comments below.

I would love to hear from you. Hope you all are having a wonderful year so far and have already started preparing for the holidays. Stay Beautiful. Stay True. And Stay Purposeful Every day.

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Embrace Your Present-Self With Grace And Ditch Perfection

Lots of expectations and pressure come with being a woman. And in the midst of so many demands from your partner, family, and society- it's nearly difficult to feel confident; or to keep a positive attitude about yourself or your body.

Few days back, I was browsing through my old pictures. Seeing the young me brought me some sad feelings. For a moment; I felt like, "wish I can look like this again!" The sad part of life is that- we grow, and we 'grey.' We don't remain the same (don't look the same each following day), as we were six or seven years back. Especially after marriage; and most importantly after having kids, a woman's body doesn't look the same any more- for most of us! So be gentle, kind, and patient throughout this process.

If you feel that your beauty is fading, or you don't look attractive anymore; try to look confident,  try to look smart, be graceful, and always keep that smile on your face.

What you keep telling yourself daily will appear in your daily experiences. "Believing transforms our living."

A good friend recently told me, "doesn't matter how you look these days, and if that makes you feel bad or difficult to accept some parts of you at the moment; just know that- you are so very graceful." This statement was so timely! I felt so good from deep within my soul.

 Yes! there are so many ways of dealing with any kind of imperfections- we develop over time, or we are born with! And the first way is to 'accept it'.

I want to love everything about myself- with grace- no shame, and no hiding. I embrace who I am now.
We are much more than just being pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, and attractive.
I have chosen few words that defines me. And I no more worry about being accepted, or accepting myself as per society's definition of a woman (what everybody defines a woman being "perfect."). I see that things are changing, all across the globe, and throughout the Internet- we are seeing "new" and better definitions of a woman.

You have the power to overcome the limiting beliefs that stop you from realizing your full potential and creating happiness. Stop focusing on your "flaws," and see your true self within.

I found this awesome quote while reading an article on the Internet:

Share with me in the comments below, all the personality traits you think you possess- other than being called beautiful, perfect or anything similar.

Here's a List of 'Names' that defines you, me in so many other ways. It is okay if you feel you are not-beautiful, or not-attractive. You are so much more:

Affectionate             Kind                    
Achiever                  Loving
A Good Friend        Leader
Admirable               Merciful
 Adventurous          Magical
Ageless                   Peaceful             
Adorable                 Powerful
 Ambitious              Passionate
 Awesome               Pure
 Aware                    Protector
  Artistic                 Positive

Brave                       Resilient
Blessed                     Smart
Bubble of Joy           Supportive
Beyond Fabulous     Successful
Best Manager           Stylish       
Balanced                   Strong                                                           
Bright                       Smiling Beauty
Benign                      Skillful
Boss                         Sensitive
Bold                         Simple
Bubbly                    Trustworthy
Brainy                     Thoughtful
Bundle of Energy    Talented
Best-Known           Understanding
Best-Performer       Vibrant
                                Very Patient

Best Mother
Best Daughter
Best Sister                                                                             

                                Gentle & Kind                                                                          
                                Great Personality
                                Good Listener
                                Great Lover  
                                Great Friend                                                                                                  

As I am growing older, I'm learning to redirect my focus from physical beauty and appearance to fully accepting who I am. "I will rather focus on my innate gifts, skills and talents; than worry about my look and body image!"

So next time when you find yourself doubting your own beauty, try writing down all the other great qualities- you are known for "donning." Shift your focus from your flaws/imperfections to your  positive qualities. 

"I still do what I can to look my best and presentable- with all my imperfections."

Do you like the list? I would love to hear from you about this post.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Practicing Stillness In Life

The practice of stillness can create ripples of new energy in  your life. A calm mind is the architecture of  success in life.
Turning off your mind and doing nothing is the state of 'being still.' Practicing the discipline of stillness (when life gets too crazy for me) has given me new inner strengths to deal with my 'problems.'

"While writing this post, I was reminded of this annoying (for others during those times!) habit of mine- I would complete all the work that I was supposed to do,  and then would go still, completely still for few minutes before moving on to the next task. I couldn't understand (then), the reason why I used to sit in complete stillness like this? But now when I talk to my past self; I realize that it was my way of dealing with all kinds of stress and complications."

"Being still would calm down my worries, and frustration!
I'm glad this habit has made me more patient and a realized woman."
I still practice stillness in my present life, but in a different way. There has been a huge shift in the way I look at life now. The more we attend to the unhappy  or busy parts of our life, the more restless we become. And it's very difficult to calm your racing thoughts. So much happen with us every single day; but trying to focus only on the good stuffs takes a lot of practice (I'm slowly getting better at it :))

Why We Need Stillness?

I feel slowing down or even stopping for a moment, and listening to our inner voice reveals the true needs that we have been neglecting from so many years. Personally, I feel we all need some 'still' time in a day- every day for the following reasons:

1. Stillness creates the space for new ideas or solutions to appear.

When we shut the door to avoid same old thoughts, ideas, and or worries to enter our mind, we kind of clear the clutter in our head. We connect to ourselves and to the present moment. When we book some quiet time with our own self, we can find moments to reflect on our own self.

2. It helps you to find your calm.

When you feel that everything around you is very chaotic and disturbing, find your 'stillness.' To keep calm and recreate that sparkle of joy in your life, just slow down. Be still. And feel really really better.

3. Attaches you to your spiritual health needs.

Taking charge of your health and well being is an important part of living a long healthy life. Spiritual needs connect us to our belief system and strengthens our faith and hope for tomorrow. When we create stillness through the spiritual medium (like; meditation, chanting mantras, or by praying), we not only create peace and joy in our life; but we also develop a sense of gratitude and purity.

4. Stillness cultivate gratitude.

A still mind and a restful body can take better decisions of life. When we pause even for a moment, and reflect upon everything that we possess at present; we can calm our habit of complaining. And we will release the fear of uncertainty, scarcity, and anxiety! With practice of stillness, we clear all the blocks that helps growing our "ego tower."

The more thankful we are towards our lives, the more satisfied we become!

And the more we practice stillness; even in between our busy schedules, the better balanced person we become. We can attract more positive energy while being calm, still, and silent. We can develop better imagination and understanding power, when we search our true self in stillness.

I would love to hear from you all - What helps you get still and quiet?

And if you liked this post, please do share.

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Easy Tips To Create Your Sweet Life

A "sweet life" isn't the absence of difficulties, failures, struggles, insecurities, or wanting more." But, a life turns out to be sweet when we are truly alive, we laugh often, we make mistakes, we learn, we start, over and over again, we learn to accept changes and delays, we try to be patient when our plans fail and when our focus changes; life becomes sweet when we practice mindfulness in the daily chaos of our lives, when  we start to focus on what's important, when we create something amazing with the available knowledge and resources, and last but not the least- when we find happiness in the midst of our daily struggles.

I just finished reading this amazing inspiring book by Author Dulce Candy Ruiz. A true life story; where there is struggle, fear, uncertainties,  dream, hope, courage, hard work, positive attitude, and lots and lots of inspiring takeaways. "We must be passionate about what we do, what we want to do, and then do it at any cost." I feel lucky, when I get to (grab and devour such amazing books) learn from such amazing influential authors, who share insightful stories of success and failure in order to help us find the confidence to step up and and reach our goals.

 I want to say that, "I loveeee this book, and couldn't put it down until I finished reading just in three days." After I read her book, I admire her even more. I found this book very inspiring, and this post is inspired by the book

So here's what I learned about all the essential 'ingredients' we would need for creating our very own sweet life. I have already started using some of these ingredients, and the rest I will apply soon in my daily life.

1. Never let your dream die.

Your dreams were given to you for a reason, so believe in them! Your dream defines your uniqueness, your talent, your purpose in this life; so never ever throw away any of them from yourself.

If you are not in a position to pursue your dream today, don't worry. Just work hard and learn from all the available resources to get there some day. Learn new things each day, Practice, Try incorporating in your work, Fail, and Repeat.

2. Focus only on what you want in life.

May be whoever we're becoming as we are growing up and getting older, is exactly who we're supposed to be. Our preferences are changing, our values shifting, and we are becoming more aware about our own self with each new day. May be this shift in knowing oneself better comes with age; but whatever it is, I'm proud (of myself) to see how far I have come discovering my strengths and where I'm going to be working with them.

Don't dwell on what isn't working in your life. Focus on what's more important to you at the moment, and create a sweet life with peace and real joy.

3. Don't worry about naysayers.

Create your own opportunities, and ignore them who doesn't believe in you. If someone says you do not have the ability to do what you are doing (or want to do), or doubts your performance- just don't listen to them, and stop seeking any kind of help or appreciation from such people. Keep the faith and trust who you want to be, and what you want to achieve- and go for it.

Very few will truly appreciate your talent, and will do anything to help you- not all. So don't let anybody influence you to hold back on living your best life.

Let your unique gifts rise to the forefront. Let your creativity shine high. And let your dreams sing the victory song.

4. Develop the courage, and confidence to fulfill your greatest potential.

You must be confident and equally courageous to stand alone for your purpose- even when nobody supports you! As you tirelessly work on becoming a better person each day, you will eventually find yourself prepared for the higher version of your purpose in this life. You will get on a journey to find better things/better solutions/ better tasks for your overall well-being.

So, trust that journey and just keep going. You will soon discover the connection to the links- that started the day you discovered your new self.

5. Believe in your work.

When you start believing in your self, you will believe in your work too! When you believe in what you do, you grow and you excel. Have faith in your abilities. Work hard. Believe in yourself. Don't give up; and there's nothing you cannot accomplish.

You have just this life. Don't waste it by feeling you aren't enough, you are any less than others, or you cannot be successful. Just believe YOU CAN- and YOU WILL- one day!

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