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Change Your Perspective and Change Your Life: Love & Belonging

Author Brene` Brown subtly defines love and belonging in its deepest form! I am so touched by her findings. Here what she says:

 "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, and healed."

How true!

We are wired for love and to belong. Belonging is not just a need, it is a core desire embedded in our cells that keep us alive. In order to be loved and to belong, we must keep our 'compassion window' open all-the-time! Be compassionate to understand that even though we are hardwired to belong, we cannot force our self to be included. We must understand that denial or rejections do not define our worth. We must remember that if we want to fully experience love and belonging, we should see ourselves worthy of being loved and to belong.

Our worthiness erodes when we don't stand up and own our story. The courage to accept oneself transcends all boundaries of shame and guilt.
I'm glad that I took a positive stance and accepted my story that did not just reflect my failures, my mistakes, but the lessons too; that have has helped me travel so far in my life. I have learned to shut things out that no longer helps me to grow, live better, and or does not bring me joy and peace.  To belong and to be loved should not block the path to courage, compassion, and authenticity.

The year 2020 is going to be a big year of shift for me; in terms of change, setting goals, finding the courage to be true self, in reclaiming my time, and building my power around passion and purpose.! I wish to see more healing in my and life, and in all of your life. I wish to write an ending to our story that must include transforming our pain into compassion for one another. I wish to see my life and yours' from a different humanitarian level that must be embedded with more compassion, authentic connection, and courage.

" Every story matters. We are all worthy of telling our stories and having them heard. We all need to be seen and honored in the same way that we all need to breathe." ~Viola Davis

Belonging is not fitting in; even though we sometimes try to use both the words interchangeably! There are many occasions where we hustle to fit in; by pleasing, by perfecting, by portraying  everything is just fine in our lives; but belonging says, "be who you are, stand for your values and beliefs, even if you've to stand alone!

Love and belonging are both essential components for human survival. We need them to survive and thrive, but not at the cost of your self-worth! Claim your story, your power within to shine your light-that is just yours' and not something that has been created by other's opinions and suggestions.


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