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6 Ways To Let Go Of The Past To Live In The ‘Present’

Posted on September 7, 2020September 8, 2020 by Epsita
6 Ways To Let Go Of The Past
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For most of us, past is never a pleasant experience. If past has been haunting you [let go of the past]; it’s time you take care of it. I will not ask you to forget your past, as it is really difficult; but yes, you can always avoid any thoughts that takes you back to your worst life, to live in the present, and to forget or let go of your past.

Living a life that you have always wanted to live- is a great way to know that, you don’t live in your past anymore. Still the impact is so deep; that the damage remains visible.   

If you want to heal the pain of the past, learn to compare the events from your present. Be free of the past, and you can move on and enjoy a happy and peaceful life. 

I had many ugly experiences in the past and never wanted to look back or have those memories back in my life. But the nagging pain of those dreadful memories kept blocking my happiness. I was not being able to enjoy my present life completely. Still there was emptiness, and  a huge burden of guilt and failures from the past!

Six ways to paint your past with a beautiful present:  

1. Marriage   You have found your love and have agreed to marry the person who loves you more and cares for your feelings. You know from your experiences that; it is important for you, your partner and specially for the kids to have a healthy marriage life. You are conscious about fights, arguments and any kind of relationship violence; that it  can cause serious damage to your marriage and kids.    Marriage isn’t just about you and your partner, but also about a ‘home’ where there should be love, care, dependency, need for each other and lots of trust and respect for each family members.  

2. Kids   Your childhood may not have been good and beautiful, but you have painted a beautiful and love-filled life for your kids. You know what you couldn’t get and achieve; you will always have it available for your kids. You were silent, scared, neglected and lonely; but you are teaching your kids to be confident of their capabilities, to be brave, bold and to be open about any problems in their life.   

3. Career   Maybe your student life was a total failure or you never excelled academically, but you have achieved enormous experiences from past; and now you are following your dreams. You are doing what you have always wanted to do. Even today, sometimes you fail in your attempts, but you know how to work hard to achieve the rewards, because you are doing something that you always wanted to do and you love doing it!  

4. Friendship   You had spilled many personal secrets to your ‘close’ friends, and they never kept it a secret. You were always judged and was never understood or accepted! Now you know who your friends should be, and to whom you can reveal some personal information. At present, you have very few good friends whom you can trust and accept them in your life. 

5. Social life   May be you were forced to attend certain events and gatherings, that you never wanted to go. May be you had to sacrifice certain priorities to be present in such places, where you were entertaining and pleasing others- unhappily; but now you know where you should be present and where you should not! No more compromises at the cost of your family and kids. No more masking the ‘pleasing’ personality. Society is made of different kinds of people and therefore being socially responsible doesn’t always mean- listening and agreeing to others all the time. Sometimes you need to make a conscious choice.  

6. Health and Peace   With the simplification and understanding of life comes inner peace and harmony. You have made certain conscious decisions to stay healthy and peaceful; either by learning your character and the strengths and weaknesses. You know why and when chaos touches lives and family.  You have learned the trick of -“accept and let go.” All the negatives from the past- like; something someone said and or did was always in your mind and heart, and you accepted it. The moment you accepted the fact, it started losing power and slowly all negative thoughts started flowing out from your life.   

Choosing to live in the past not only robs you of all the enjoyment today, but robs you of true living. Live in present and love your today, and completely soak yourself in the present moment. Live every bit of it, just like there was no yesterday and there is no tomorrow. Whatever is there- is just this day!    Embrace your every day and stay optimistic. You had no control over your past, but your ‘today’ is completely yours to make it better for your tomorrow. So let go of the past and learn to live in the present!

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15 thoughts on “6 Ways To Let Go Of The Past To Live In The ‘Present’”

  1. Jackie Harrison says:
    December 15, 2014 at 12:18 pm

    Great post.

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  2. Epsita says:
    December 15, 2014 at 8:21 pm

    Thank you Jackie! Always!

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  3. Martin says:
    December 15, 2014 at 9:54 pm

    Amazing post. The past is always something good and bad. On the one hand we can learn out of the past, on the other hand we regret some of what we did. The worst thing for me are friends that arent able to keep a secret.

    Greetings from Germany,
    Martin / http://www.look-scout.de

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  4. Launna says:
    December 16, 2014 at 10:13 am

    Epsita… you think I would know who I can trust to tell secrets to … however; it isn't that easy … even when you are sure you know them.

    Even after all this, I still want to believe I will know and trust someone in the near future…

    This is a great list and one to really ponder.. have a lovely day 🙂

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  5. The Adventures of a Shopaholic says:
    December 16, 2014 at 11:39 pm

    Lovely post 🙂

    Marianna,
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  6. Epsita says:
    December 18, 2014 at 5:10 am

    Thank you very much Martin! Thank you for stopping by!!

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  7. Epsita says:
    December 18, 2014 at 5:19 am

    I agree with you, Launna; sometimes even after knowing that we should not trust someone, we end up believing that; it's OK to trust that person again; hoping that his time he or she will not hurt, understand our feelings and will keep our secrets! Life is all about learning from experiences. We need to stop our heart from hurting us again and again by doing such mistakes. It's always wonderful to have your comments and thoughts on my page.
    Thank you always!!
    Love
    Epsita

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  8. Epsita says:
    December 18, 2014 at 5:20 am

    Thank you Marianna! Thank you for stopping by!

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  9. Rakel says:
    December 20, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    nice post!!

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  10. Epsita says:
    December 22, 2014 at 8:39 pm

    Thank you, Rakel. Thank you for stopping by. Will sure visit your blog too!

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  11. Jenna says:
    September 8, 2020 at 12:01 pm

    Lovely read 😀
    Jenna ♥
    Stay in touch? Life of an Earth Muffin

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    1. Epsita says:
      September 26, 2020 at 5:00 am

      Thank you, Jenna <3 I'm glad you liked it. Sure! Will do

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  12. Anya Dryagina says:
    September 9, 2020 at 1:47 am

    The post is just super! These are really important things
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  13. Missy May says:
    September 12, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    Epsita, always dropping good gems! You are right about this post. Friends who can’t keep secrets are the worst. Smh!! Thank you for this post.

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  14. Sophie says:
    September 24, 2020 at 6:35 am

    This is such a great post!
    Thank you for sharing these beautiful words.
    It is so important for all of us to “let go of the past to live in the present”!

    Minimalist Jewelry | No Piercing Ear Cuffs

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