Every “body” has a story. Some stories may sound familiar, but definitely this post is not just my story; but many like me- who think they should love their “body.” They should love themselves because they may not be attractive, may not have the perfect body (shape), and may not be as fashionable as others (what people think); but are equally beautiful as any other skinny or zero size women! “I know this is a sensitive subject for many!” Therefore we should all be equally responsible for the “words”, we use to describe or comment on someone!
Fashion just cannot be defined by one person or ‘for’ one person. It is different for every “body.” How you pull your clothes together makes you “look different.” For some it may be an effortless task, while for some- it may take effort to look your best- just because you cannot fit into everything and anything, like me! But do not feel ashamed about it. We all are born with different features. Embracing them may seem harder and embarrassing, but remember: “it is your body, and you must love it.”
“I know there is a big hue and cry about “losing weight”and being “skinny.” And so many girls and women are driven into this mad race. It is getting worse every day. Blaming the media, celebrities, fashion industry or the models may look like an easy excuse to satisfy ourselves; but, it is people’s distorted perception of body image- that should be blamed!”
“Sometimes, I hate myself for being a part of such society, where you are judged by your looks and clothes, and not by your behavior!”
“Dressing well” is an important requirement in all jobs today! Definitely there is a ‘business and success value’ of dressing; but, that does not mean, you can judge a person’s capabilities through his/her dressing? Dressing for your “body type”, sometimes may not be as ‘alluring’ as it should be; but please, “do not judge me by my clothes! Sometimes, it seems a tough task to look our best and or feel confident in the ‘clothes’ we are expected to wear! But do not blame your body for that! You are beautiful and equally strong to face such ‘negative people.’
A woman’s body goes through numerous changes; and especially the post-baby body. Some get in-shape, while for many it seems challenging (due to several reasons). Declaring the reasons or, defending yourself, to show your friend that; “you are not usually like this,” may satisfy you for sometime, but not for too long. Feel proud about who you are, and how you look-physically!
Self-evaluation is good, but comparing your physical appearance to that any of your notion of “best attractive body” is never going to make you a happier person; nor it will help you embrace your “body image” in the positive way, any-day! We all have some version of “I am not perfect” from inside. But accepting yourself (your body) more important from within, than from just outside. If you feel satisfied with how you look outside, you will definitely make peace with your inner self-image!
“I have had never been skinny (though I do not remember my teen days), and have never wanted to be one! I admire women in good shape (never feel bad to compliment them); also feel motivated to be in “perfect shape,” when I see the celebrities, models on glossy magazines, or fashion bloggers; but believe me; they have never happened to be the reasons of ‘hating my body.’ I like who I’am, and how I carry myself-in terms of fashion and style.”
Try these easy practices to learn how to embrace your body:
- Shop for your Body
Nobody else can ever tell you,”what you should wear?” If you are lucky enough to be noticed, you may stumble across Stacy and Clinton to tell you; “What Not To Wear,” but if you are not, try and be your own stylist. Find dresses, pants and tops that flatter your body and make you feel “beautiful.”
- Shop your ‘Styles’.
Shop your taste in style, and not for other’s negative remarks! If you are not comfortable in shorts and t-shirts, don’t go for it, and make yourself feel uncomfortable! Even if it means wearing button-down shirts in summer, rather than wearing sleeveless tops or t-shirts, wear your usual favorites. Do not care for other’s negative comments and criticisms. Style with your favorites, and make a statement in fashion.
- Have a Love Relationship with your Body.
Surrender to your body and accept the way it is. This will not only bring peace to your life, will also help you feel motivated to reduce your extra weight (if you are happily willing to!) sometimes in the future; when you feel, you are ready! Keep repeating to your body,”I think, you are beautiful, just the way you are now, and I believe, you can get much better tomorrow.” Stop hating, and just believe in your love (body), and see how things will start to transform slowly.
- Focus on your health.
Sometimes we diet, sometimes we fight (with ourselves by hurting and neglecting body demands), sometimes we try and fail; but still try and try…but do not stop hating our body. In all these attempts to creating an “ideal body,” we neglect our health. We forget that, our health is deteriorating, which is turn it is affecting our weight and the look. Feeding your body with mindful eating and small exercises like; walking, dancing or running, can keep your health in check and your mind calm and peaceful. Listen to your body demands like plenty of rest, good 7-8 hours of sleep, drinking lots of water and staying happy and less-stressed!