How To Embrace Your Present-Self With Grace And Ditch Perfection

Lots of expectations and pressure come with being a woman. And in the midst of so many demands from your partner, family, and society- it’s nearly difficult to feel confident; or to keep a positive attitude about yourself or your body.

Few days back, I was browsing through my old pictures. Seeing the young me brought me some sad feelings. For a moment; I felt like, “wish I can look like this again!” The sad part of life is that- we grow, and we ‘grey.’ We don’t remain the same (don’t look the same each following day), as we were six or seven years back. Especially after marriage; and most importantly after having kids, a woman’s body doesn’t look the same any more- for most of us! So be gentle, kind, and patient throughout this process.

If you feel that your beauty is fading, or you don’t look attractive anymore; try to look confident, try to look smart, be graceful, and always keep that smile on your face.

What you keep telling yourself daily will appear in your daily experiences. “Believing transforms our living.”

A good friend recently told me, “doesn’t matter how you look these days, and if that makes you feel bad or difficult to accept some parts of you at the moment; just know that- you are so very graceful.” This statement was so timely! I felt so good from deep within my soul.

Yes! there are so many ways of dealing with any kind of imperfections- we develop over time, or we are born with! And the first way is to ‘accept it’.

I want to love everything about myself- with grace- no shame, and no hiding. I embrace who I am now.

We are much more than just being pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, and attractive.

I have chosen few words that defines me. And I no more worry about being accepted, or accepting myself as per society’s definition of a woman (what everybody defines a woman being “perfect.”). I see that things are changing, all across the globe, and throughout the Internet- we are seeing “new” and better definitions of a woman.

You have the power to overcome the limiting beliefs that stop you from realizing your full potential and creating happiness. Stop focusing on your “flaws,” and see your true self within.

I found this awesome quote while reading an article on the Internet:

Share with me in the comments below, all the personality traits you think you possess- other than being called beautiful, perfect or anything similar.

Here’s a List of ‘Names’ that defines you, me in so many other ways. It is okay if you feel you are not-beautiful, or not-attractive. You are so much more:

Affectionate Kind

Achiever Loving

A Good Friend Leader

Admirable Merciful

Adventurous Magical

Motivator

Natural

Old-fashioned

Open-Hearted

Optimist

Ageless Peaceful

Adorable Powerful

Ambitious Passionate

Awesome Pure

Aware Protector

Artistic Positive

Precious

Purposeful

Quick-Sighted

Quiet

Qualified

Responsible

Brave Resilient

Blessed Smart

Bubble of Joy Supportive

Beyond Fabulous Successful

Best Manager Stylish

Balanced Strong

Bright Smiling Beauty

Benign Skillful

Boss Sensitive

Bold Simple

Bubbly Trustworthy

Brainy Thoughtful

Bundle of Energy Talented

Best-Known Understanding

Best-Performer Vibrant

Very Patient

Winner

Wise

Not-Judgmental

Best Mother

Best Daughter

Best Sister

Calm

Classy

Colorful

Caring

Cheerful

Courageous

Cute

Creative

Confident

Considerate

Cool

Curious

Caring

Cultured

Caretaker

Dark

Determined

Disciplined

Daring

Dreamer

Delicate

Decent

Divine

Dynamic

Dedicated

Emotional

Elegant

Electrifying

Encouraging

Enthusiastic

Experienced

Exceptional

Fabulous

Famous

Faithful

Fluent

Flexible

Fair

Fighter

Funny

Fearless

Forgiving

Fortunate

Generous

Gentle & Kind

Graceful

Great Personality

Good Listener

Great Lover

Great Friend

Happy

Honest

Healer

Hopeful

Intelligent

Inspiring

Indomitable

Ideal

Irreplaceable

Iconic

Joyful

As I am growing older, I’m learning to redirect my focus from physical beauty and appearance to fully accepting who I am. “I will rather focus on my innate gifts, skills and talents; than worry about my look and body image!”

So next time when you find yourself doubting your own beauty, try writing down all the other great qualities- you are known for “donning.” Shift your focus from your flaws/imperfections to your positive qualities.

“I still do what I can to look my best and presentable- with all my imperfections.”

Do you like the list? I would love to hear from you about this post.