You all very well know how the feeling is, when you’re just starting out; trying something new and different, and you end up feeling overwhelmed, confused and decide that it isn’t for you? You definitely want to feel competent, and confident about it, but then how you to want to feel outside doesn’t align with how you’re feeling inside. This post is for those moments when you should still keep going, even if you feel you are not good at something that you’re doing, or you have just started doing.
It is very likely to feel embarrassed and discouraged when you’re a newbie. Isn’t it? I have had so many such moments in life, when I felt like I must quit and or should never go back to that work again! But continuing was the only option with me, because I wanted to do what I love
If you really have your heart set on something that brings you unfiltered joy and satisfaction, then there’s no turning around- even if it takes longer than usual. The secret to keep going and to not stop doing what you’ve started is to focus on small tasks, tiny accomplishments, and persevere. Do not expect instant perfection, and to achieve big unattainable goals. This way you will set yourself up for failure.
I can totally relate to that strong urge of quitting; be it your job that’s burning you out, your exercise goals that’s stealing your writing or reading time, your new marketing career that’s forcing you out of your introvert bubble, your [any]creative or blogging journey that is not showing any significant progress, or your writing and editing profession, that seems so competitive and unachievable. I can relate to all of these- really!
But let me tell you something out of my experience. By working a little each day, and giving my best efforts, I’ve learned some important secrets that have has helped me to grow and evolve in the writing and blogging field.
It turns out that growth and success is possible for almost everyone, if they focus on practicing every day. Not just practice, but repeated practice can help you achieve a growth mindset.
Growth mindset suggests that if you believe in what you do and if you keep trying, you can get better over time. Therefore even if you hit failures after failures, keep showing up, and keep working hard.
Do not stop believing in your innate ability- that is; you have the capacity to grow and improve.
Here are 6 ways how to keep yourself going when you really want to quit:
1.Understand your strengths first to start with
If you already know your strengths, write them down. Try to understand how you can utilize each one of them to reach your goals. Finding more about your strengths will also help you understand what you want to do, or why you want to continuing doing something that you’ve started. Keep going don’t stop.
Keep doing what makes you the happiest, and inspires you to do more. That is where your strength is!
2. Begin even if you have no idea if it will work
Are you terrified to take that first step to begin something new? Are you feeling nervous to even think about failing? But how do you know you’ll fail even before trying? If you give up, how are you going to be good at it?
May be you’ve been trying for years, and still haven’t gotten better at it; while others around you seems so naturally good at it! Yes, some are born with those talents embedded in their DNA. But didn’t you mention that you enjoy doing it. Then why give up something that you enjoy?
If you’re naturally inclined towards making it a reality, or a success; then get up! Start practicing with a clear mind, and take your won time to master that skill. You still might feel that you’re not good at it yet, but just look back and see how far you’ve come.
When you start putting more efforts [even tiny ones] to practice a skill, you make progress. Constant small progress each day adds up to your success. Practice a little more every single day, and you’ll be surprised to see how much you learn about that skill[s], and you will be a naturally a pro too. You will surpass that natural talent definition. Just consistently practice honing that skill to become better at it everyday!
3. Stop procrastinating because things feel hard and scary
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise L. Hay
Today do that one thing that you’ve been putting off.
I took almost five years to give my writing/blogging skills my hundred percent undivided attention. I just kept procrastinating only to avoid stress and uncertainties. I’ve had always loved writing more than anything else, but continuing as a blogger left me feeling paralyzed because I was uncertain and full of self-doubts; if this career will make me successful! I had no idea about the essential tools for running a successful blog, to market my content, and/or to approach brands and authors for collaborations.
I’ve been there and I know how demotivating that feeling can be! I’m glad I am able to share these tips with you, to help you, and to stop you from falling into the negative habits of procrastinating. Next time you’re triggered with such excuses, speak to yourself with kindness just as you would do to a friend. So start with saying things like:
-It’s okay if you feel scared and uncomfortable at the beginning. But still go for it. Start it anyways.
–If it doesn’t work in the first few attempts, practice more. Learn more from others and try giving going for another attempt
-Learn more from others and try giving going for another attempt
-If you fail, remember to celebrate the knowledge and experience you’ve gained out of this.
-If you could learn so much as a beginner, and/or not-as-an-expert, imagine when you become successful, you’ll be a knowledge repository.
–If you fail, remember to celebrate the knowledge and experience you’ve gained out of this.
-You can do it.
Be willing to be uncomfortable now, so that your you can be at peace in the future, and can enjoy the fruits of your labor.
4. If you like to do something but you feel you’re not good at it
If this is what is stopping you from moving ahead, focus on these words, “you like doing it” and that is what matters. If you love doing it, you’ll find a way, and nothing can stop you. I understand that it is taking time; sometimes more time than required. But don’t stop believing. It will work out in the end.
Figuring out what you’re passionate about is an important topic that you must focus on right now. If your new job, or a project, or a this career is going to help you to leave the mundane, and to build your favorite life that you’ve always imagined, and you love; then I don’t think the urge to quit should be stronger than this.
5. Let go of fear
I know that fear blocks all the other reasons to continue. But without surpassing fear, you’ll never see what there for you on the other end. In order to get to the other side, you must start walking, keep doing what you’ve started, to get through the hard part and the uncertainity.
In order to do your passion, and to do what you love, what you’ve started, big leaps of faith are mandatory.
Let go the fear that, ‘it will not work.’ Just take one step at a time. Rushing to be successful will make you not enjoy your work.
It doesn’t matter how unfair life treats you, or how stuck you feel sometimes, or how slow you go; all that matters is your willingness to keep going despite the great challenges.
I hope this post changes your mindset to help you continue doing what you’ve just started, or thinking of starting to do. Just keep going even when you feel you’re not good at something. Know that by giving up now, and by quitting, you will never be able to tell your success story to someone, or to your future self.