“Always find time for the things that make you feel happy to be alive.”
This beautiful quote sums up everything (also is a reminder), about all that we need in life- to feel happy, to relax, to slow down, to find inner peace, and to pamper oneself quiet often. Happiness in life is all about- feeling happy everyday– which is not easy in the present world. When we are constantly threatened by competition, success, and building the “perfect lifestyle,” staying happy can be a serious issue. Who knew even after having “it all,” we can’t experience ‘true’ happiness and inner peace?
Finding true joy in life is no competition. It is more of an awareness, a self-realization that; ” we can stay happy if we want to be!” There might be many reasons to make you feel unsatisfactory with your current situation; but there’s also much more reasons you can find- to build the blocks of your “happiness tower.”
As Anthony J. D’ Angelo has aptly said~ ~ “The greatest gift you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention.”
It can be easy to drown yourself in day-to-day worries. And only few continue to smile and swim away gently from those fearful monsters called- ‘problems’; only with the hope that-they will too pass soon! “I am trying to be one among them!” I am practicing to distance myself from all kinds of worries I have at present, and to breathe, to stay calm in all adversities, and to hold on to faith. “Some of my friends think I have no problems in my life- may be because I share happy smiling pictures with them on social media. I believe it’s fine if they are thinking this way. This helps me to understand that- I am trying to ‘share the best parts of me with everyone; and I am working hard to take control of my life- my way!
I constantly look for things where I can focus my mind, and my thoughts- to feel relaxed, and to connect with myself. Some days I get over my worries easily, other days I try harder to find a way out to make myself feel good again, to feel alive again.
So here’s what I do to listen to my inner-self, to calm my emotions, and to take a detour when mind seems blocked:
1. Time for myself
Finding time to nurture my body and nourish my mind is the best gift I very often give to myself. When I allow myself to have some “me” moments to unwind and de-stress, I feel more energetic, and kind of more productive to do everything in a better calm way. I give myself moments to relax and slow down, sometimes even to shut-down- all that bothers me- and to be just me- like a little fearless child.
2. Another chance
To revisit my mistakes, my failures, my unhappy moments! I give myself permission to visit them all again and see if I can find a better way to make it happen. I allow myself to do what I love, and to do what is important for me.
3. To escape
I give myself permission to say ‘no’ to things I cannot do, or cannot be! When it seems hard to control, I escape from them for a while (until I find myself the courage to face them again.) This is when I absorb myself completely in doing creative things like- photographing nature, capturing special moments of my kids in my camera, or in my diary, dancing with my son and daughter, singing all by myself, or painting my nails, organizing my wardrobe, dressing up etc.
4. Peace of mind
I try to stop myself feeling worried; and focus on the day- like; how best I can spend one day of my life. So have faith (yes! just hold on to your faith) that everything will settle and will be okay. To calm my fears and stubborn emotions- I reach out to friends, my family, and most of times I look for the book, that can speak to me.
5. Pamper your body, highlight your beauty, and if possible take a vacation, or a short break from your roles and responsibilities.
6. Find your passion and purpose
These two things drive my life. I will be nowhere without them inside me. We are all earning to live, and to let live; but how many of us truly enjoys what we do? We are all riding on a no-motivation life vehicle; where nobody cares about the words like; “passion, and purpose.” But the secret to me ‘being happy’ is more about what I do every day, how passionate I am all about doing it- anyways!
It’s time we start looking at our lives as purposeful, passion-filled journeys.
If we look hard enough, we can find moments of joy in every day. For the days when nothing seems like working; I try creating new to-do lists to feel happy and joyful again.